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<blockquote data-quote="trinityroyal" data-source="post: 144720" data-attributes="member: 3907"><p>Sue, it sounds like you're describing my difficult child. He is an aspie, but according to the forensic psychiatrist that we've just started working with, he also scores high for mania and depression and more than likely falls somewhere in the bipolar realm as well. (Poor difficult child. Sigh.<img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/felttip/pouting.png" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":pouting:" title="pouting :pouting:" data-shortname=":pouting:" />)</p><p></p><p>Like so many of our children, my difficult child speaks and presents very well at first, but he's completely incapable of functioning independently because so many pieces are missing. husband and I have come to the realization that he will likely need 24/7 support for the rest of his life.</p><p></p><p>difficult child IS capable of doing so many things for himself. When I really started to analyze what he can do vs. what he can't, it all boils down to seeking pleasure and avoiding grief. Nothing else matters to him. Loss of privileges, rewards, consequences...none of it matters. Only pleasure and pain. </p><p></p><p>So, we have been working with psychiatrist, therapist and Residential Treatment Center (RTC) to reframe all of his therapeutic goals along those lines.</p><p></p><p>For example:</p><p>difficult child likes his own stinkiness, so he doesn't wash for days on end. The last time I was at his Residential Treatment Center (RTC), his whole unit smelled like it had dead bodies in it. This was from difficult child's BO. He had nasty skin growths caused from filth and we had to throw away some of his clothes that were unsalvageable because of the smell. We arranged with his Residential Treatment Center (RTC) to schedule a bath in hot water and bubble bath every day. difficult child started sitting very still in the water, so as not to get clean and lose the stink. So now, the Residential Treatment Center (RTC) staff go in with him and watch him bathe. If that doesn't work, they will wash him. In this case, we have made the grief for not bathing so high that it outweighs the pleasure he gets from being stinky.</p><p></p><p>We are working through every one of his maladaptive behaviours along these lines. It's brutal hard work, but it seems like the only way to make it make sense to him.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="trinityroyal, post: 144720, member: 3907"] Sue, it sounds like you're describing my difficult child. He is an aspie, but according to the forensic psychiatrist that we've just started working with, he also scores high for mania and depression and more than likely falls somewhere in the bipolar realm as well. (Poor difficult child. Sigh.:pouting:) Like so many of our children, my difficult child speaks and presents very well at first, but he's completely incapable of functioning independently because so many pieces are missing. husband and I have come to the realization that he will likely need 24/7 support for the rest of his life. difficult child IS capable of doing so many things for himself. When I really started to analyze what he can do vs. what he can't, it all boils down to seeking pleasure and avoiding grief. Nothing else matters to him. Loss of privileges, rewards, consequences...none of it matters. Only pleasure and pain. So, we have been working with psychiatrist, therapist and Residential Treatment Center (RTC) to reframe all of his therapeutic goals along those lines. For example: difficult child likes his own stinkiness, so he doesn't wash for days on end. The last time I was at his Residential Treatment Center (RTC), his whole unit smelled like it had dead bodies in it. This was from difficult child's BO. He had nasty skin growths caused from filth and we had to throw away some of his clothes that were unsalvageable because of the smell. We arranged with his Residential Treatment Center (RTC) to schedule a bath in hot water and bubble bath every day. difficult child started sitting very still in the water, so as not to get clean and lose the stink. So now, the Residential Treatment Center (RTC) staff go in with him and watch him bathe. If that doesn't work, they will wash him. In this case, we have made the grief for not bathing so high that it outweighs the pleasure he gets from being stinky. We are working through every one of his maladaptive behaviours along these lines. It's brutal hard work, but it seems like the only way to make it make sense to him. [/QUOTE]
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