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<blockquote data-quote="ck1" data-source="post: 107181" data-attributes="member: 3767"><p>I also understand the torture of trying to control our own thoughts and worries but being completely unable to do so. My son was also arrested earlier this year and spent about 19 weeks aways from home (combination of detention and Residential Treatment Facility (RTF)). He's home now and has a consent decree (similar to probation). He's only been home a few days, but I'm also struggling with letting him out of my sight. </p><p></p><p>BUT...I have. Last night I let him go to a basketball game with some friends. I was nervous, but very happy that we let him go because he surprised me by doing exactly what was expected. He checked in when he was supposed to and came home 14 minutes early!! My difficult child will very likely will be sent away again if he violates his consent decree. However, I'm slowly learning that it's best to allow him to make his own decisions. If he makes bad decisions, bad consequences will follow. If he makes good decisions, good consequences will follow. It's up to him.</p><p></p><p>My point here is...try giving your son some space. If his requests are reasonable, let him go. He just might surprise you and show you that he has learned something and with some guidance from you, can and will make good decisions!! You'll never know, though, if you don't give him any opportunities. I know it's hard, but in the end you may have less stress and anxiety or at least know where you stand and how much responsibility he can handle.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="ck1, post: 107181, member: 3767"] I also understand the torture of trying to control our own thoughts and worries but being completely unable to do so. My son was also arrested earlier this year and spent about 19 weeks aways from home (combination of detention and Residential Treatment Facility (RTF)). He's home now and has a consent decree (similar to probation). He's only been home a few days, but I'm also struggling with letting him out of my sight. BUT...I have. Last night I let him go to a basketball game with some friends. I was nervous, but very happy that we let him go because he surprised me by doing exactly what was expected. He checked in when he was supposed to and came home 14 minutes early!! My difficult child will very likely will be sent away again if he violates his consent decree. However, I'm slowly learning that it's best to allow him to make his own decisions. If he makes bad decisions, bad consequences will follow. If he makes good decisions, good consequences will follow. It's up to him. My point here is...try giving your son some space. If his requests are reasonable, let him go. He just might surprise you and show you that he has learned something and with some guidance from you, can and will make good decisions!! You'll never know, though, if you don't give him any opportunities. I know it's hard, but in the end you may have less stress and anxiety or at least know where you stand and how much responsibility he can handle. [/QUOTE]
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