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<blockquote data-quote="DammitJanet" data-source="post: 122748" data-attributes="member: 1514"><p>Here is a post on the subject of homework:</p><p></p><p>I groaned when I read your signature block, where you put "no one wants to label him". I really get upset with that. It is ONLY my opinion, because I know other kids have been labled and then dumped. But I had to FIGHT to get my kid diagnosed, and then get his diagnosis recognized by the school, so I could demand the services he needed. And what a pain in the butt!!! I don't care what you call him! Call him Fred Flintstone, if that gets him the help he needs!!!</p><p></p><p>Anyway, you are dealing with some very typical ODD behaviors, and Ritalin is not likely to do you any good at all.</p><p></p><p>There are several different approaches to medications and diet for ODD. Some parents have, by trial and error, and a lot of hard work, figured out that their kids are sensitive to the point of allergic to some common food substances like wheat, and have put their kids on very carefully constructed diets, with some success. There are other parents who have had their kids on different medications, and have had to do what I call pharmacological roulette, to get a combination that works right for a time.</p><p></p><p>I was fortunate that my son spent about 6 months on medications that did not do him any good, including Paxil (a Seratonin Reuptake Inhibitor, commonly perscribed for depression), and Tenex (perscriped for high blood pressure, sometimes given to kids to slow them down), and then finally we discovered here that Risperdal (an anti-psychotic) was sometimes effective in managing rage. It worked for us.</p><p></p><p>Fuzz at 10, would experience a minor frustration, like a pencil lead breaking. Within less than two seconds, he would be screaming and throwing things, including furniture.</p><p></p><p>The Risperdal, in conjunction with intense therapy, helped a lot.</p><p></p><p>At that same time, I got him moved out of a regular classroom with a teacher who couldn't cope with his outbursts, to the point that she would initiate them to get him out of the room; and I transferred him to a behavior disorder classroom in another building, where he was in a class with 6 children, and two staff. Sometimes three staff. He thrived.</p><p></p><p>He is now 12, in junior high, mainstreamed 5 of 8 periods per day, and supported the other 3, with the option of being pulled back into the supportive environment if needed.</p><p></p><p>The Risperdal gave him a few seconds delay between the onset of frustration and the adrenaline rush that the rage is simply the expression of. The therapy was focused on how to evaluate the source of the frustration, and think of a reasonable alternative to throwing the tantrum or chair. In other words, how to use those few seconds constructively to arrive at the startling conclusion that the broken pencil could be sharpened, with permission from the teacher.</p><p></p><p>It was an epiphany.</p><p></p><p>We have few homework wars. Homework is handled simply like this:</p><p></p><p>1. I already went to school This is yours. You have to do it, or you will fail. That choice is also yours.</p><p></p><p>2. If you need help, you may come to me and ask me for help. I will try to clear up what you do not understand, but I will not do your work for you. If you don't know what a word or question means, I will explain the word or the question. But I will not draw the picture, write the sentence, or fill in the chart. That's your job.</p><p></p><p>3. I will not cry, fight, argue, yell, or worry about whether you do your homework. If you refuse to do your homework, 7th grade will be the longest four years of your life.</p><p></p><p>I love you. But I'm not loving if I don't let you get up and learn how to do this for yourself.</p><p></p><p>I'm here to put ice on your head when you get a lump, but I'm going to let you land on your butt when you lose your balance, and cheer you when you get back up. That's how you learned to walk. That's how I learned to let you.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DammitJanet, post: 122748, member: 1514"] Here is a post on the subject of homework: I groaned when I read your signature block, where you put "no one wants to label him". I really get upset with that. It is ONLY my opinion, because I know other kids have been labled and then dumped. But I had to FIGHT to get my kid diagnosed, and then get his diagnosis recognized by the school, so I could demand the services he needed. And what a pain in the butt!!! I don't care what you call him! Call him Fred Flintstone, if that gets him the help he needs!!! Anyway, you are dealing with some very typical ODD behaviors, and Ritalin is not likely to do you any good at all. There are several different approaches to medications and diet for ODD. Some parents have, by trial and error, and a lot of hard work, figured out that their kids are sensitive to the point of allergic to some common food substances like wheat, and have put their kids on very carefully constructed diets, with some success. There are other parents who have had their kids on different medications, and have had to do what I call pharmacological roulette, to get a combination that works right for a time. I was fortunate that my son spent about 6 months on medications that did not do him any good, including Paxil (a Seratonin Reuptake Inhibitor, commonly perscribed for depression), and Tenex (perscriped for high blood pressure, sometimes given to kids to slow them down), and then finally we discovered here that Risperdal (an anti-psychotic) was sometimes effective in managing rage. It worked for us. Fuzz at 10, would experience a minor frustration, like a pencil lead breaking. Within less than two seconds, he would be screaming and throwing things, including furniture. The Risperdal, in conjunction with intense therapy, helped a lot. At that same time, I got him moved out of a regular classroom with a teacher who couldn't cope with his outbursts, to the point that she would initiate them to get him out of the room; and I transferred him to a behavior disorder classroom in another building, where he was in a class with 6 children, and two staff. Sometimes three staff. He thrived. He is now 12, in junior high, mainstreamed 5 of 8 periods per day, and supported the other 3, with the option of being pulled back into the supportive environment if needed. The Risperdal gave him a few seconds delay between the onset of frustration and the adrenaline rush that the rage is simply the expression of. The therapy was focused on how to evaluate the source of the frustration, and think of a reasonable alternative to throwing the tantrum or chair. In other words, how to use those few seconds constructively to arrive at the startling conclusion that the broken pencil could be sharpened, with permission from the teacher. It was an epiphany. We have few homework wars. Homework is handled simply like this: 1. I already went to school This is yours. You have to do it, or you will fail. That choice is also yours. 2. If you need help, you may come to me and ask me for help. I will try to clear up what you do not understand, but I will not do your work for you. If you don't know what a word or question means, I will explain the word or the question. But I will not draw the picture, write the sentence, or fill in the chart. That's your job. 3. I will not cry, fight, argue, yell, or worry about whether you do your homework. If you refuse to do your homework, 7th grade will be the longest four years of your life. I love you. But I'm not loving if I don't let you get up and learn how to do this for yourself. I'm here to put ice on your head when you get a lump, but I'm going to let you land on your butt when you lose your balance, and cheer you when you get back up. That's how you learned to walk. That's how I learned to let you. [/QUOTE]
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