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<blockquote data-quote="DammitJanet" data-source="post: 122752" data-attributes="member: 1514"><p>The topic was "Guilt, is it appropriate?"</p><p>The context of it was parents who had done everything they could, and yet felt guilty.</p><p>"Anyway, any suggestions on dealing with the guilt and reassuring one's self that they are doing the best they know how to do, would be helpful."</p><p></p><p>Let's turn it around and look at it from a slightly different direction, here.</p><p></p><p>Guilt. This is a very strong emotion. One that all of us feel, if we are wired normally, upon occasion. My first memory of guilt, was when I was probably about three. I lied to my mother. Boy! That guilt button really worked! I felt so bad I just KNEW I was now lower than snake scum in a wagon rut!</p><p></p><p>Guilt. That's what you feel when you've screwed up. That's what you are supposed to feel when you've done something you know you aren't supposed to do, or when you've avoided doing what you knew was the right thing to do. And boy, is that uncomfortable!</p><p></p><p>On the other hand, along with her yellow mitten, you have no reason to feel guilty if:</p><p></p><p>You are doing the best you can with what you have;</p><p>You are doing the best you can with what you know;</p><p>You are doing the best you can to not screw up;</p><p>You are doing the best you can based on anything anybody else can think of to suggest!</p><p></p><p>Guilt. There's enough of it going around that is deserved. Don't drag around a bunch that you don't deserve.</p><p>You're doing your best. If that means you have to search the kid coming and going, then you go right on and search the kid. It means you care. And NOBODY should EVER feel guilty for caring. in my humble opinion</p><p>pico,</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DammitJanet, post: 122752, member: 1514"] The topic was "Guilt, is it appropriate?" The context of it was parents who had done everything they could, and yet felt guilty. "Anyway, any suggestions on dealing with the guilt and reassuring one's self that they are doing the best they know how to do, would be helpful." Let's turn it around and look at it from a slightly different direction, here. Guilt. This is a very strong emotion. One that all of us feel, if we are wired normally, upon occasion. My first memory of guilt, was when I was probably about three. I lied to my mother. Boy! That guilt button really worked! I felt so bad I just KNEW I was now lower than snake scum in a wagon rut! Guilt. That's what you feel when you've screwed up. That's what you are supposed to feel when you've done something you know you aren't supposed to do, or when you've avoided doing what you knew was the right thing to do. And boy, is that uncomfortable! On the other hand, along with her yellow mitten, you have no reason to feel guilty if: You are doing the best you can with what you have; You are doing the best you can with what you know; You are doing the best you can to not screw up; You are doing the best you can based on anything anybody else can think of to suggest! Guilt. There's enough of it going around that is deserved. Don't drag around a bunch that you don't deserve. You're doing your best. If that means you have to search the kid coming and going, then you go right on and search the kid. It means you care. And NOBODY should EVER feel guilty for caring. in my humble opinion pico, [/QUOTE]
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