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<blockquote data-quote="DammitJanet" data-source="post: 122759" data-attributes="member: 1514"><p>Here is Pico's reply to "What works, and what doesn't?"</p><p></p><p>Do all pro football players break the law, beat people up, get arrested for guns and drugs? Do all blondes end up dumb?</p><p>Each of these kids will respond to something, the problem is finding out what that is. The boy I have today, will respond to calm negotiation, but a year and a half ago, he could only stop raging after he was totally overpowered and intimidated. In handcuffs at ten! And Arguing with the cops!</p><p></p><p>There is hope. There is always hope, unless someone has died.</p><p></p><p>But it is not likely to be an easy road, and there will be some losses. That's the bleak truth. We won't be able to fix every kid. But we have to try. We have to approach every single kid as if he or she is the one that is going to become amazingly well adjusted eventually.</p><p></p><p>We also have to realize that it is an overwhelming task. Last evening in counseling, Fuzz's counselor put me in my place. She said, "Not all parents are like you. You can't expect everyone else to have your results. Some people cannot put themselves as totally into that one kid as you have been invested in Fuzz."</p><p></p><p>Hmmmmm. Never really thought about it, but she's right. I have two kids. The easy child is fairly low maintenance, all things considered. Some of you have so many more obstacles in front of you every single day, that it is totally unrealistic for me to claim that if you just do what I did, your kid will be just fine. Not necessarily so.</p><p></p><p>But the good news is, here, in this place, we can share the joys of the successes, even those little ones; we can shoulder the burdens of the sorrows together; we can hold each other up when we are too sad to know what we need; we can hold each other down when we are too mad to make sense; we can hold each other, period, when we need those hugs that don't come walking through our own front doors.</p><p></p><p>And that, dear ones, is success. The fact that here, in this place, each of us can be restored to feeling human; can be loved; can be praised; can be validated; can be inspired; can be encouraged to keep looking for answers.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DammitJanet, post: 122759, member: 1514"] Here is Pico's reply to "What works, and what doesn't?" Do all pro football players break the law, beat people up, get arrested for guns and drugs? Do all blondes end up dumb? Each of these kids will respond to something, the problem is finding out what that is. The boy I have today, will respond to calm negotiation, but a year and a half ago, he could only stop raging after he was totally overpowered and intimidated. In handcuffs at ten! And Arguing with the cops! There is hope. There is always hope, unless someone has died. But it is not likely to be an easy road, and there will be some losses. That's the bleak truth. We won't be able to fix every kid. But we have to try. We have to approach every single kid as if he or she is the one that is going to become amazingly well adjusted eventually. We also have to realize that it is an overwhelming task. Last evening in counseling, Fuzz's counselor put me in my place. She said, "Not all parents are like you. You can't expect everyone else to have your results. Some people cannot put themselves as totally into that one kid as you have been invested in Fuzz." Hmmmmm. Never really thought about it, but she's right. I have two kids. The easy child is fairly low maintenance, all things considered. Some of you have so many more obstacles in front of you every single day, that it is totally unrealistic for me to claim that if you just do what I did, your kid will be just fine. Not necessarily so. But the good news is, here, in this place, we can share the joys of the successes, even those little ones; we can shoulder the burdens of the sorrows together; we can hold each other up when we are too sad to know what we need; we can hold each other down when we are too mad to make sense; we can hold each other, period, when we need those hugs that don't come walking through our own front doors. And that, dear ones, is success. The fact that here, in this place, each of us can be restored to feeling human; can be loved; can be praised; can be validated; can be inspired; can be encouraged to keep looking for answers. [/QUOTE]
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