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<blockquote data-quote="Tanya M" data-source="post: 655518" data-attributes="member: 18516"><p>Oh Lil, I'm so sorry.</p><p></p><p>Very typical of a Difficult Child that they only think about themselves and not how their actions are affecting those around them.</p><p></p><p></p><p>I find it suspicious that he says he has done nothing wrong. Could be true but I'm sure there is a reason behind it. Again, very typical of a Difficult Child to think that nothing is their fault.</p><p></p><p>I had several episodes like this where my son would fly into these fits, lots of crying and cussing and telling us how no one loved him, he was all alone, how he wished that he had never been born, and on and on and on.</p><p></p><p>I think they just get to that point of complete desperation and don't know what to do. They simply want to rely on someone else to take care of them. They want to be able to party and have a good time but when anyone confronts them about any type of responsibility they lose it.</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>I know you are hurting but you will get through this. I remember feeling the same way many times, just being so completely tired of it all, just wanting to lay down and not get up but I did not give in to it.</p><p>Jabber has a good point, it's not about forgiveness. I have forgiven my son for some really horrible things but I don't think I will ever trust him again. Trust is one of the hardest things to rebuild. It's not that it can't be done but it does take a lot of hard work on the part of the Difficult Child.</p><p>Your family dynamics have changed but that doesn't mean you don't have a family. Family goes far beyond blood. I like you have only one child but I do not define my family as me, husband. I define family as those who stand by you, those who are there for you, the people you could call in the middle of the night. My husband is my family and we have extended family in our church and our friends.</p><p>I had to mourn the loss of the relationship I had with my son. I will always have a glimmer of hope that someday we might have a good, healthy relationship but I am realistic enough to know that may never happen and I'm ok with that. I as you need to go on and live our lives.</p><p></p><p>Lil, you are so blessed to have Jabber and he is blessed to have you. Cherish that. Hold on to each other and you will get through this.</p><p></p><p>((HUGS)) to you..............</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Tanya M, post: 655518, member: 18516"] Oh Lil, I'm so sorry. Very typical of a Difficult Child that they only think about themselves and not how their actions are affecting those around them. I find it suspicious that he says he has done nothing wrong. Could be true but I'm sure there is a reason behind it. Again, very typical of a Difficult Child to think that nothing is their fault. I had several episodes like this where my son would fly into these fits, lots of crying and cussing and telling us how no one loved him, he was all alone, how he wished that he had never been born, and on and on and on. I think they just get to that point of complete desperation and don't know what to do. They simply want to rely on someone else to take care of them. They want to be able to party and have a good time but when anyone confronts them about any type of responsibility they lose it. I know you are hurting but you will get through this. I remember feeling the same way many times, just being so completely tired of it all, just wanting to lay down and not get up but I did not give in to it. Jabber has a good point, it's not about forgiveness. I have forgiven my son for some really horrible things but I don't think I will ever trust him again. Trust is one of the hardest things to rebuild. It's not that it can't be done but it does take a lot of hard work on the part of the Difficult Child. Your family dynamics have changed but that doesn't mean you don't have a family. Family goes far beyond blood. I like you have only one child but I do not define my family as me, husband. I define family as those who stand by you, those who are there for you, the people you could call in the middle of the night. My husband is my family and we have extended family in our church and our friends. I had to mourn the loss of the relationship I had with my son. I will always have a glimmer of hope that someday we might have a good, healthy relationship but I am realistic enough to know that may never happen and I'm ok with that. I as you need to go on and live our lives. Lil, you are so blessed to have Jabber and he is blessed to have you. Cherish that. Hold on to each other and you will get through this. ((HUGS)) to you.............. [/QUOTE]
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