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<blockquote data-quote="Childofmine" data-source="post: 655616" data-attributes="member: 17542"><p>Lil that is great news and you needed some great news! </p><p></p><p>Who knows, Lil, sometimes all seems hopeless and then it starts to turn around. I am always and ever hopeful for any sign of good, and so let's pause....and be glad for this. Just relish this one moment for a moment.</p><p></p><p>And maybe he sees that he CAN do something. And maybe he will decide that by goodness, he doesn't want to live with cockroaches and the way not to live with cockroaches is to do something different...himself.</p><p></p><p>I couldn't look at the pictures of mold in my son's last apartment. He still likes to shock and awe so he did show me a picture of a horrible centipede like thing that was in the corner of their apartment. Somebody told him those things come out when there is a lot of moisture, like the mold. He said mold was growing all over their dishes, inside their cabinets, on the floors, everywhere, after the water leak. </p><p></p><p>He ended up staying there for more than a month after this happened. Then, he found another place, himself.</p><p></p><p>My new reaction to things that I don't care to see...is not to see them. I used to torture myself with all kinds of I-have-to-know-all-of-the-details-information about him.</p><p></p><p>Today I don't. Yes, it's awful to live in mold and with cockroaches but it usually doesn't kill you.</p><p></p><p>I know none of us ever imagined we would be talking about these types of things with our children, but folks...here we are. It is reality.</p><p></p><p>The question is: how to we deal with reality? Like I started out here, my take is to create, maintain and keep some good healthy distance between the details of my life and the details of his life. </p><p></p><p>That's good for me.</p><p></p><p>So glad!!! Hope it works like we all hope it will.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Childofmine, post: 655616, member: 17542"] Lil that is great news and you needed some great news! Who knows, Lil, sometimes all seems hopeless and then it starts to turn around. I am always and ever hopeful for any sign of good, and so let's pause....and be glad for this. Just relish this one moment for a moment. And maybe he sees that he CAN do something. And maybe he will decide that by goodness, he doesn't want to live with cockroaches and the way not to live with cockroaches is to do something different...himself. I couldn't look at the pictures of mold in my son's last apartment. He still likes to shock and awe so he did show me a picture of a horrible centipede like thing that was in the corner of their apartment. Somebody told him those things come out when there is a lot of moisture, like the mold. He said mold was growing all over their dishes, inside their cabinets, on the floors, everywhere, after the water leak. He ended up staying there for more than a month after this happened. Then, he found another place, himself. My new reaction to things that I don't care to see...is not to see them. I used to torture myself with all kinds of I-have-to-know-all-of-the-details-information about him. Today I don't. Yes, it's awful to live in mold and with cockroaches but it usually doesn't kill you. I know none of us ever imagined we would be talking about these types of things with our children, but folks...here we are. It is reality. The question is: how to we deal with reality? Like I started out here, my take is to create, maintain and keep some good healthy distance between the details of my life and the details of his life. That's good for me. So glad!!! Hope it works like we all hope it will. [/QUOTE]
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