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<blockquote data-quote="InsaneCdn" data-source="post: 457957" data-attributes="member: 11791"><p>Advice we received years ago: There are some jobs that most kids just naturally hate, and cleanup is one of them. Worse than that is to expect them to do it solo - that exponentially multiplies the "punishment" in their eyes. If you're going to deal with teaching clean-up, it has to be a shared task, you cannot let it get that bad in the first place (which includes restricting number of toys simultaneously available), you have to do it frequently, and you have to negotiate the roles. </p><p></p><p>There was a period of time where the most I could get out of our kids was for them to tell me where each thing went. But they had to stay there and work with me until the job was done. Didn't take very long before they figured out that it would go faster if they put a few things away too.</p><p></p><p>If you have to, plan a clean-up time before every single meal - we found it doesn't work to do it before bedtime because the kids are already tired: clean-up requires organization skills and coping skills, and both of those go out the window when they are tired.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="InsaneCdn, post: 457957, member: 11791"] Advice we received years ago: There are some jobs that most kids just naturally hate, and cleanup is one of them. Worse than that is to expect them to do it solo - that exponentially multiplies the "punishment" in their eyes. If you're going to deal with teaching clean-up, it has to be a shared task, you cannot let it get that bad in the first place (which includes restricting number of toys simultaneously available), you have to do it frequently, and you have to negotiate the roles. There was a period of time where the most I could get out of our kids was for them to tell me where each thing went. But they had to stay there and work with me until the job was done. Didn't take very long before they figured out that it would go faster if they put a few things away too. If you have to, plan a clean-up time before every single meal - we found it doesn't work to do it before bedtime because the kids are already tired: clean-up requires organization skills and coping skills, and both of those go out the window when they are tired. [/QUOTE]
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