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<blockquote data-quote="Ktllc" data-source="post: 458029" data-attributes="member: 11847"><p>I have taught and expected the boys to clean up their toys very early. For my easy child, it was just natural. I might have to remind him or just say "ok, time to clen up" and off he goes on his own. difficult child... not so much. He usually moves around but don't do a single thing!!! I used to end up yelling and evryone frustrated. </p><p>We have plenty of bins and the toys are organized in categories (small vehicles, big vehicles, blocks, animals, balls, etc..). easy child naturally puts them back where it goes. difficult child... not so much.</p><p>A few weeks ago, I finally realized difficult child simply does not know what to do. I now help him through by naming one task at a time: "find all the balls and put them in the bag, all of them: look under the bed, in the kitchen, etc" As I gve him tips, I make sure he follows through. </p><p>difficult child now takes an active part in the process with no fussing. I use an energetic voice, a little louder than usual so everyone knows it's time to clean up: Mom means business but she is not mad. I sometimes clap my hands a couple times before we start which helps difficult child get into it. </p><p>We pick up several times a day, but the main rule that never fails: pick up time before the shower. Then we can have dinner in a clean tidy environment which I think is relaxing for everyone.</p><p>I have also lowered my expectation in some areas: I organize his desk and keep it clean for difficult child, the clothes are put in the laundry rom by difficult child but I pick them up and throw them in the right basket...</p><p>It takes time to learn on both ends: you and your difficult child.</p><p>Keep on thinking and adapting, soon you will find a system.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Ktllc, post: 458029, member: 11847"] I have taught and expected the boys to clean up their toys very early. For my easy child, it was just natural. I might have to remind him or just say "ok, time to clen up" and off he goes on his own. difficult child... not so much. He usually moves around but don't do a single thing!!! I used to end up yelling and evryone frustrated. We have plenty of bins and the toys are organized in categories (small vehicles, big vehicles, blocks, animals, balls, etc..). easy child naturally puts them back where it goes. difficult child... not so much. A few weeks ago, I finally realized difficult child simply does not know what to do. I now help him through by naming one task at a time: "find all the balls and put them in the bag, all of them: look under the bed, in the kitchen, etc" As I gve him tips, I make sure he follows through. difficult child now takes an active part in the process with no fussing. I use an energetic voice, a little louder than usual so everyone knows it's time to clean up: Mom means business but she is not mad. I sometimes clap my hands a couple times before we start which helps difficult child get into it. We pick up several times a day, but the main rule that never fails: pick up time before the shower. Then we can have dinner in a clean tidy environment which I think is relaxing for everyone. I have also lowered my expectation in some areas: I organize his desk and keep it clean for difficult child, the clothes are put in the laundry rom by difficult child but I pick them up and throw them in the right basket... It takes time to learn on both ends: you and your difficult child. Keep on thinking and adapting, soon you will find a system. [/QUOTE]
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