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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember1" data-source="post: 751813" data-attributes="member: 23706"><p>I get this entire scenario. They really are NOT capable, but they either refuse to admit it by getting the proper help or they truly believe that they are fine. This, in spite of not ever being able to make it in life on their own. Kay is married and barely making it even with a partner, although he has always had issues too, according to his bereft parents who also would like him and Kay to accept professional help. </p><p></p><p>They won't.</p><p></p><p>Kay has a high verbal IQ and slightly higher than average IQ as a whole, but she is absolutely terrified to work, unable to work or unwilling to work. Who knows? She is very disorganized in her environment and in thought.</p><p></p><p>My thinking is that if the birthmother used any drug, she probably also drank. Its too bad that adoptive parents usually get such poor information. That leaves us with little knowledge as we try to raise them and as adults to try to assess why they don't thrive. </p><p></p><p>I am sorry that you have to deal with helping a child who won't or can't take care of herself. I don't know about your daughter, but talking to Kay is like talking to an alien sometimes. She is incompatible with logic and believes the most bizarre conspiracy theories. I am surprised she doesn't think that the earth is flat. Maybe she does.</p><p></p><p>God bless you. This is very hard to do.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember1, post: 751813, member: 23706"] I get this entire scenario. They really are NOT capable, but they either refuse to admit it by getting the proper help or they truly believe that they are fine. This, in spite of not ever being able to make it in life on their own. Kay is married and barely making it even with a partner, although he has always had issues too, according to his bereft parents who also would like him and Kay to accept professional help. They won't. Kay has a high verbal IQ and slightly higher than average IQ as a whole, but she is absolutely terrified to work, unable to work or unwilling to work. Who knows? She is very disorganized in her environment and in thought. My thinking is that if the birthmother used any drug, she probably also drank. Its too bad that adoptive parents usually get such poor information. That leaves us with little knowledge as we try to raise them and as adults to try to assess why they don't thrive. I am sorry that you have to deal with helping a child who won't or can't take care of herself. I don't know about your daughter, but talking to Kay is like talking to an alien sometimes. She is incompatible with logic and believes the most bizarre conspiracy theories. I am surprised she doesn't think that the earth is flat. Maybe she does. God bless you. This is very hard to do. [/QUOTE]
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