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Frustrating update on how to comfort grown son in impending divorce...or is it?
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<blockquote data-quote="Hound dog" data-source="post: 299787" data-attributes="member: 84"><p>Well, you're in an awful spot. Darned if you do and darned if you don't.</p><p> </p><p>I know you want to be there for your son and I really do get that completely, cuz as Mom's that's exactly what we want to do. But honestly.......if he's not going to listen to sound advice and only wants to unload.........I'd be coming back with "dear, you know what you should do. Talking to me won't help you, talking with the woman you love just might."</p><p> </p><p>I've done it to my kids. And I'll probably have to do it again some time in the future. It's not that I mind comforting them or giving them someone to unload to. But that can only help so much. And if there is a serious problem going on......such as your son has........talking to me won't do them any good, they have to learn to communicate with their partner.</p><p> </p><p>Poking his head in the sand isn't going to change that his wife is considering leaving. Sitting on his hands isn't going to stop it from happening. But sitting her down and having an honest talk about what she's thinking and why and such just might be enough to get him the result he wants. But even if it doesn't, it will at least give him the reason behind it. Could be she's waiting for him to show her he still loves her enough to try to stop her. Hard to tell.</p><p> </p><p>Bad situation for you though. Awful to watch them hurting and know they're probably gonna be hurt alot more before it's over.</p><p> </p><p>((((hugs)))))</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Hound dog, post: 299787, member: 84"] Well, you're in an awful spot. Darned if you do and darned if you don't. I know you want to be there for your son and I really do get that completely, cuz as Mom's that's exactly what we want to do. But honestly.......if he's not going to listen to sound advice and only wants to unload.........I'd be coming back with "dear, you know what you should do. Talking to me won't help you, talking with the woman you love just might." I've done it to my kids. And I'll probably have to do it again some time in the future. It's not that I mind comforting them or giving them someone to unload to. But that can only help so much. And if there is a serious problem going on......such as your son has........talking to me won't do them any good, they have to learn to communicate with their partner. Poking his head in the sand isn't going to change that his wife is considering leaving. Sitting on his hands isn't going to stop it from happening. But sitting her down and having an honest talk about what she's thinking and why and such just might be enough to get him the result he wants. But even if it doesn't, it will at least give him the reason behind it. Could be she's waiting for him to show her he still loves her enough to try to stop her. Hard to tell. Bad situation for you though. Awful to watch them hurting and know they're probably gonna be hurt alot more before it's over. ((((hugs))))) [/QUOTE]
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