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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 662051" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>When they are out of our house, hon, we never know if they are safe, even if they are not looking for trouble. In fact, less street smart kids are bigger targets for rapists and predators. I am totally against handing kids things like their own cars, but I was so worried about my Easy Child at college, we gave her one of our two cars so she didn't have to walk around college campus. It's in our name, but she's the one who uses it. Both of my daughters have been assaulted, although they were not on the streets. One was at her best friends house when visitors were there (a man did it to her at age 8). The other was a child we adopted who did it to my younger kids under our noses and once we found out he was gone that day...if we had not had such a strong family bond, the entire family might have imploded under the pressure, but we survived and thrived with a lot of professional help. I still feel guilty. In my house. I didn't know. They didn't tell me. The day he was "caught" was the last day he ever stepped foot in our house and we dissolved the adoption.</p><p></p><p>Our street smart kids are far more likely to know how to avoid this. That doesn't mean it won't happen. Just saying worrying doesn't change anything. Nothing. Most of our homeless adult children learn how to live on the streets, where to go for food, where they can sleep etc. Bad things can happen, but they can also happen to you or your Easy Child.</p><p></p><p>Be nice to yourself and get therapy. I am prone to panic attacks myself and have learned some amazing skills to stop them in their tracks. They are so scary. I take medication too for my depression/panic disorder. That helps my depression, but the panic is still possible so I had to learn coping skills. A great book is "Don't Panic" by Wilson and Reid. It was my panic Bible for years. I put it in my purse and took it with me everywhere. If I felt like a panic attack was coming on, especially at work, I'd go to the restroom and lock myself in a stall, and read the chapter about how to stop the attack. Al-Anon is a good free resource I used and that helped me with my daughter when she used drugs. She quit!!!! It can happen!!!!! Ironically, she was assaulted as a poor young child, not as she roamed the streets at night hanging with drug dealers.</p><p></p><p>Life is weird.</p><p></p><p>Don't fail to take good care of yourself because if you don't you will be no good for your other child, any friends or family who love you, or most importantly yourself. I would stop looking at the social media other than to glance to see that daughter is alive. Don't read the content. Yes, it's possible <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p><p></p><p>Hugs for your hurting heart.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 662051, member: 1550"] When they are out of our house, hon, we never know if they are safe, even if they are not looking for trouble. In fact, less street smart kids are bigger targets for rapists and predators. I am totally against handing kids things like their own cars, but I was so worried about my Easy Child at college, we gave her one of our two cars so she didn't have to walk around college campus. It's in our name, but she's the one who uses it. Both of my daughters have been assaulted, although they were not on the streets. One was at her best friends house when visitors were there (a man did it to her at age 8). The other was a child we adopted who did it to my younger kids under our noses and once we found out he was gone that day...if we had not had such a strong family bond, the entire family might have imploded under the pressure, but we survived and thrived with a lot of professional help. I still feel guilty. In my house. I didn't know. They didn't tell me. The day he was "caught" was the last day he ever stepped foot in our house and we dissolved the adoption. Our street smart kids are far more likely to know how to avoid this. That doesn't mean it won't happen. Just saying worrying doesn't change anything. Nothing. Most of our homeless adult children learn how to live on the streets, where to go for food, where they can sleep etc. Bad things can happen, but they can also happen to you or your Easy Child. Be nice to yourself and get therapy. I am prone to panic attacks myself and have learned some amazing skills to stop them in their tracks. They are so scary. I take medication too for my depression/panic disorder. That helps my depression, but the panic is still possible so I had to learn coping skills. A great book is "Don't Panic" by Wilson and Reid. It was my panic Bible for years. I put it in my purse and took it with me everywhere. If I felt like a panic attack was coming on, especially at work, I'd go to the restroom and lock myself in a stall, and read the chapter about how to stop the attack. Al-Anon is a good free resource I used and that helped me with my daughter when she used drugs. She quit!!!! It can happen!!!!! Ironically, she was assaulted as a poor young child, not as she roamed the streets at night hanging with drug dealers. Life is weird. Don't fail to take good care of yourself because if you don't you will be no good for your other child, any friends or family who love you, or most importantly yourself. I would stop looking at the social media other than to glance to see that daughter is alive. Don't read the content. Yes, it's possible :) Hugs for your hurting heart. [/QUOTE]
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