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<blockquote data-quote="DammitJanet" data-source="post: 540130" data-attributes="member: 1514"><p>K I so understand this whole situation. Its the whole Men are from Mars situation. He feels so strongly about how he was done wrong and I agree with him totally on that by the way, I may have a loophole for you guys to think about using or even holding over said idiot brothers heads to maybe make them more willing to listen to reason. After I finish this little bit of sympathy chat I will give you my loophole. I think all of us if we have been told or at least expect that we are going to be getting something from our family when they died, then we would be expecting it. I know I expected my father to have planned for me and had something set up for my kids. It certainly didnt work out that way as far as I know. If my step-mom lied I will never know it because in VA if the house and cars are in both spouses names and the surviving spouse claims there is no will and no one else can prove there is one, the estate doesnt have to go to probate. So even though I was his sole heir, the only thing I got was a CD he had put in both of our names years ago. She got their house which was completely paid for, her car...which she should have, all his retirement money, all their bank accounts, all his life insurance policies. I think there was a will because I asked my dad several years before he died if he would put in his will that Tony would get his power tools when he died and he said he would. Now my step-mom gave us no issue with taking the tools but I wonder why.</p><p></p><p>Of course this isnt millions of dollars. My stepmom didnt need my dads money. She inherited almost a half million when her mom died about 20 years ago and my dad has paid most of the bills the whole time they have been married. She invested well and only paid for things she really wanted or things for her kids. </p><p></p><p>As you can see, I am still sorta ticked off and so are my kids. She was supposed to find "something" that was important to my dad for Cory and Billy so they could have something to remember him by. Jamie got all his Marine stuff and I got his truck and one Marine ship picture plus I got back some of my baby pictures she gave to Jamie. She swore she had just the perfect ring in mind for Cory...my dad always wore this signet ring that was gold with his initials. Dad had fairly small hands but so does Cory. It is really old. If it doesnt fit him, I will pay to have the top part cut off and attached to the top of a new ring that will fit him. I think it is too old and thin to stretch. Or we could make it into a necklace for him. I have no idea what would be actually sentimental in there to Billy. I know I want my red Bible, the vhs tapes dad took of my boys, and the old slides my mom and dad took of me when I was a baby. Why she would ever want those I dont know. She didnt even want pictures of me at 15. Or me and my boys during her marriage to my dad. I was going on and on about how I was so worried about how to find out about this stuff about a will or what my dad had left me in a group one day and this lady popped off at the mouth and said I had no business even worrying about it. It was none of my business. As his wife, she deserved to get everything. I shouldnt get a damned thing! I said wait a second, she has only been his wife for 20 years and he has been my father for my entire life...which at that time was 49 years! </p><p></p><p>Ok...my loophole. If anyone got gramma to sign over that farm within 3 to 5 years before she went to stay in a nursing home and if at anytime during that nursing home stay she required medicare or medicaid....mainly medicaid because they are the ones who pay for long term nursing home care, well that is illegally transfer of funds. I would bet my right arms she didnt make them pay her the fair market value of the land, if she charged them anything at all. You could check public records for the price that the land was sold for or if it was just passed over. At that point you can point out to the brothers that what they did was completely illegal and could get granny tossed out on her rear to their house. OR....they could just split the land the way it was supposed to be split originally and all will just e fine</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DammitJanet, post: 540130, member: 1514"] K I so understand this whole situation. Its the whole Men are from Mars situation. He feels so strongly about how he was done wrong and I agree with him totally on that by the way, I may have a loophole for you guys to think about using or even holding over said idiot brothers heads to maybe make them more willing to listen to reason. After I finish this little bit of sympathy chat I will give you my loophole. I think all of us if we have been told or at least expect that we are going to be getting something from our family when they died, then we would be expecting it. I know I expected my father to have planned for me and had something set up for my kids. It certainly didnt work out that way as far as I know. If my step-mom lied I will never know it because in VA if the house and cars are in both spouses names and the surviving spouse claims there is no will and no one else can prove there is one, the estate doesnt have to go to probate. So even though I was his sole heir, the only thing I got was a CD he had put in both of our names years ago. She got their house which was completely paid for, her car...which she should have, all his retirement money, all their bank accounts, all his life insurance policies. I think there was a will because I asked my dad several years before he died if he would put in his will that Tony would get his power tools when he died and he said he would. Now my step-mom gave us no issue with taking the tools but I wonder why. Of course this isnt millions of dollars. My stepmom didnt need my dads money. She inherited almost a half million when her mom died about 20 years ago and my dad has paid most of the bills the whole time they have been married. She invested well and only paid for things she really wanted or things for her kids. As you can see, I am still sorta ticked off and so are my kids. She was supposed to find "something" that was important to my dad for Cory and Billy so they could have something to remember him by. Jamie got all his Marine stuff and I got his truck and one Marine ship picture plus I got back some of my baby pictures she gave to Jamie. She swore she had just the perfect ring in mind for Cory...my dad always wore this signet ring that was gold with his initials. Dad had fairly small hands but so does Cory. It is really old. If it doesnt fit him, I will pay to have the top part cut off and attached to the top of a new ring that will fit him. I think it is too old and thin to stretch. Or we could make it into a necklace for him. I have no idea what would be actually sentimental in there to Billy. I know I want my red Bible, the vhs tapes dad took of my boys, and the old slides my mom and dad took of me when I was a baby. Why she would ever want those I dont know. She didnt even want pictures of me at 15. Or me and my boys during her marriage to my dad. I was going on and on about how I was so worried about how to find out about this stuff about a will or what my dad had left me in a group one day and this lady popped off at the mouth and said I had no business even worrying about it. It was none of my business. As his wife, she deserved to get everything. I shouldnt get a damned thing! I said wait a second, she has only been his wife for 20 years and he has been my father for my entire life...which at that time was 49 years! Ok...my loophole. If anyone got gramma to sign over that farm within 3 to 5 years before she went to stay in a nursing home and if at anytime during that nursing home stay she required medicare or medicaid....mainly medicaid because they are the ones who pay for long term nursing home care, well that is illegally transfer of funds. I would bet my right arms she didnt make them pay her the fair market value of the land, if she charged them anything at all. You could check public records for the price that the land was sold for or if it was just passed over. At that point you can point out to the brothers that what they did was completely illegal and could get granny tossed out on her rear to their house. OR....they could just split the land the way it was supposed to be split originally and all will just e fine [/QUOTE]
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