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<blockquote data-quote="Fran" data-source="post: 294169" data-attributes="member: 3"><p>Marge, I understand your concern. You are trying to foresee which decision would be in the best interest of difficult child 3. </p><p>I think that if you can attend with difficult child 3 to the group tennis lessons until 1) difficult child 3 is comfortable enough to act appropriately 2)things don't work out, It would be a good thing for difficult child 3.</p><p>I know I have to point out the life lesson in events that happen in our home or difficult child doesn't see the deeper meaning or emotions at hand. </p><p>We had a big disappointment recently. While I was sharing with difficult child, his only thought was "were we mad". I explained that although disappointed and maybe sad that we don't let it make worse decisions to downward spiral our lives or take it out on the one's we love. An adult deals with some of this with their loved ones and keeps doing what one needs to do to be a responsible adult. We don't get to tantrum and moan to everyone who will hear us. I think those sort of teaching moments really help my difficult child to understand the world. We are sort of their interpreters for the world outside. </p><p></p><p>It really does seem like there are a lot of wild hooligans who have no adult supervision in your little bit of heaven. I imagine this goes back to the days when husband and I were little where kids are expected to stay outside and unsupervised until dinner time. They are on their own to come up with activities and entertainment. Unfortunately, they are not always making good choices. I don't buy into "boys will be boys" as an excuse for bullying. </p><p></p><p>Hope difficult child 3 decides he wants to continue to play tennis with a group since the girl's were kind. Let the good take precedence in his memory over the bad. </p><p></p><p>If you see difficult child 3 doesn't seem to be assimilating and is acting out more and more, you can always remove him. I usually make it clear before hand what would constitute removal so he can work on those issues.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Fran, post: 294169, member: 3"] Marge, I understand your concern. You are trying to foresee which decision would be in the best interest of difficult child 3. I think that if you can attend with difficult child 3 to the group tennis lessons until 1) difficult child 3 is comfortable enough to act appropriately 2)things don't work out, It would be a good thing for difficult child 3. I know I have to point out the life lesson in events that happen in our home or difficult child doesn't see the deeper meaning or emotions at hand. We had a big disappointment recently. While I was sharing with difficult child, his only thought was "were we mad". I explained that although disappointed and maybe sad that we don't let it make worse decisions to downward spiral our lives or take it out on the one's we love. An adult deals with some of this with their loved ones and keeps doing what one needs to do to be a responsible adult. We don't get to tantrum and moan to everyone who will hear us. I think those sort of teaching moments really help my difficult child to understand the world. We are sort of their interpreters for the world outside. It really does seem like there are a lot of wild hooligans who have no adult supervision in your little bit of heaven. I imagine this goes back to the days when husband and I were little where kids are expected to stay outside and unsupervised until dinner time. They are on their own to come up with activities and entertainment. Unfortunately, they are not always making good choices. I don't buy into "boys will be boys" as an excuse for bullying. Hope difficult child 3 decides he wants to continue to play tennis with a group since the girl's were kind. Let the good take precedence in his memory over the bad. If you see difficult child 3 doesn't seem to be assimilating and is acting out more and more, you can always remove him. I usually make it clear before hand what would constitute removal so he can work on those issues. [/QUOTE]
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