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<blockquote data-quote="LittleDudesMom" data-source="post: 602489" data-attributes="member: 805"><p><span style="font-family: 'comic sans ms'"><span style="font-size: 12px">This question arises in many forms on the site - violent games, a particular medication, a consequence method, etc. I firmly believe that each difficult child processes external stimuli differently.</span></span></p><p><span style="font-family: 'comic sans ms'"><span style="font-size: 12px"></span></span></p><p><span style="font-family: 'comic sans ms'"><span style="font-size: 12px">Some of our difficult children cannot separate reality from fantasy. Some of our difficult children who have aggression issues cannot reconcile the violence they see from the violence of their behavior. And others, even though playing games perceived as violent, use it as an escape that brings a heavy sigh of relief from the difficult realities of their lives.</span></span></p><p><span style="font-family: 'comic sans ms'"><span style="font-size: 12px"></span></span></p><p><span style="font-family: 'comic sans ms'"><span style="font-size: 12px">As with all things difficult child and typical kid, you have to know your child to make the decision about what is best for him. Parenthood in general is a lot of trial and error. You won't know if it makes a positive difference for your son unless you try.</span></span></p><p><span style="font-family: 'comic sans ms'"><span style="font-size: 12px"></span></span></p><p><span style="font-family: 'comic sans ms'"><span style="font-size: 12px">For us, gaming was a journey. At the beginning, the xbox gave my difficult child a social experience he didn't have at school (he actually made "friends" he played with on the weekends and even attended a gaming birthday party one time). I was very careful at the beginning about the type of games he played - which of course, at your son's age, is easy because you have to approve or pay for the games. As he began to mature, the games became more military strategy based which allowed him focus on something he really liked. Having time limits is an important piece to keeping a healthy outlook at gaming for anyone, especially our difficult children.</span></span></p><p><span style="font-family: 'comic sans ms'"><span style="font-size: 12px"></span></span></p><p><span style="font-family: 'comic sans ms'"><span style="font-size: 12px">Your son is approaching the age where you can sit down and reason with him. Perhaps putting some limits and consequences in place would be valuable. Talking to him about your concerns that the violent gaming leads to his harsh words and behaviors can be done calmly. Letting him know that you want him to be able to play some of the games he enjoys is the goal. He needs to earn the right by positive behavior. Put a time limit on the gaming and stay consistent on consequences for aggressive behavior. Taking everything away cold turkey may cause more resistant aggression than going through his games with him as a partner and weeding out a few for the time being.</span></span></p><p><span style="font-family: 'comic sans ms'"><span style="font-size: 12px"></span></span></p><p><span style="font-family: 'comic sans ms'"><span style="font-size: 12px">Sharon </span></span></p><p><span style="font-family: 'comic sans ms'"><span style="font-size: 12px"></span></span></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="LittleDudesMom, post: 602489, member: 805"] [FONT=comic sans ms][SIZE=3]This question arises in many forms on the site - violent games, a particular medication, a consequence method, etc. I firmly believe that each difficult child processes external stimuli differently. Some of our difficult children cannot separate reality from fantasy. Some of our difficult children who have aggression issues cannot reconcile the violence they see from the violence of their behavior. And others, even though playing games perceived as violent, use it as an escape that brings a heavy sigh of relief from the difficult realities of their lives. As with all things difficult child and typical kid, you have to know your child to make the decision about what is best for him. Parenthood in general is a lot of trial and error. You won't know if it makes a positive difference for your son unless you try. For us, gaming was a journey. At the beginning, the xbox gave my difficult child a social experience he didn't have at school (he actually made "friends" he played with on the weekends and even attended a gaming birthday party one time). I was very careful at the beginning about the type of games he played - which of course, at your son's age, is easy because you have to approve or pay for the games. As he began to mature, the games became more military strategy based which allowed him focus on something he really liked. Having time limits is an important piece to keeping a healthy outlook at gaming for anyone, especially our difficult children. Your son is approaching the age where you can sit down and reason with him. Perhaps putting some limits and consequences in place would be valuable. Talking to him about your concerns that the violent gaming leads to his harsh words and behaviors can be done calmly. Letting him know that you want him to be able to play some of the games he enjoys is the goal. He needs to earn the right by positive behavior. Put a time limit on the gaming and stay consistent on consequences for aggressive behavior. Taking everything away cold turkey may cause more resistant aggression than going through his games with him as a partner and weeding out a few for the time being. Sharon [/SIZE][/FONT] [/QUOTE]
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