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<blockquote data-quote="Ktllc" data-source="post: 580138" data-attributes="member: 11847"><p>Oh Gosh! You NEED to get out of there! The "small village" mentality will simply never accept you (both of you). No matter what you do or say, it will always be you against the entire village. I think we could on and on trying to analyze the situation. But what for? You should not have to spend your entire life trying to convince everyone around you. </p><p>If I were you, I would find a "bigger" area to settle in.</p><p>Whit a difficult child, you will likely have battles, you will will likely have to be extremely vigilant, explain. convince and explain again. But you simply cannot be doing it everywher in every social situation. The village will never allow you to "excape" for a while. There is always going to be someone watching, someone to report to another someone, etc.</p><p>You have been understandably waiting for a sign, something to guide you in your decision. Here: you have it now! </p><p>Try (easier said than done!) not to get too angry at all those ingnorant, narrow minded people. </p><p>Calmly plan your escape. If you talk to J about it (or when you do should I say?), be sure to explain that YOU are making the decision but you are here to listen to how he feels about it. But ultimatly, you will decide not him. Just to take some pressure off of him. At least, that's how I handle big life decisions with my own kids.</p><p>In a way, maybe it is a relief? Your path become clearer? I don't know, I sometimes find it helpful to focus on the positive...</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Ktllc, post: 580138, member: 11847"] Oh Gosh! You NEED to get out of there! The "small village" mentality will simply never accept you (both of you). No matter what you do or say, it will always be you against the entire village. I think we could on and on trying to analyze the situation. But what for? You should not have to spend your entire life trying to convince everyone around you. If I were you, I would find a "bigger" area to settle in. Whit a difficult child, you will likely have battles, you will will likely have to be extremely vigilant, explain. convince and explain again. But you simply cannot be doing it everywher in every social situation. The village will never allow you to "excape" for a while. There is always going to be someone watching, someone to report to another someone, etc. You have been understandably waiting for a sign, something to guide you in your decision. Here: you have it now! Try (easier said than done!) not to get too angry at all those ingnorant, narrow minded people. Calmly plan your escape. If you talk to J about it (or when you do should I say?), be sure to explain that YOU are making the decision but you are here to listen to how he feels about it. But ultimatly, you will decide not him. Just to take some pressure off of him. At least, that's how I handle big life decisions with my own kids. In a way, maybe it is a relief? Your path become clearer? I don't know, I sometimes find it helpful to focus on the positive... [/QUOTE]
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