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<blockquote data-quote="Malika" data-source="post: 580210" data-attributes="member: 11227"><p>I think it is not as simple as that. Unfortunately.</p><p>I do not confuse punishment and discipline. I TOTALLY refute that I do not discipline J - in the sense of picking him up, pointing out to him, scolding him when he behaves inappropriately, selfishly, etc. I am not a punishment-minded person but I would use what works. The truth is that trying to punish this child is simply impossible and counter-productive, whether at home or at school. I let natural consequences ensue when I can. Having said that, I am very far from perfect or from having perfect tools to deal with this child. I don't. So I am quite sure there are things I could do better, learn, etc. When he is being difficult, he is very difficult and anybody would find him so. Of course I do have sympathy for the school staff. But what I know is that the principal has refused to listen to me or take me seriously for three years on the subject of hyperactivity. I have lent her books, articles, proposed that she meet the psychiatrist, etc. She won't have any of it. She doesn't know about ADHD and she doesn't want to learn. I have also given articles about ADHD at school to his teacher, who told me he was too busy to read them...</p><p>And I do rather take exception to the idea that I am giving him or think it desirable that he should have a free pass to do whatever he likes... Ummm. No. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Malika, post: 580210, member: 11227"] I think it is not as simple as that. Unfortunately. I do not confuse punishment and discipline. I TOTALLY refute that I do not discipline J - in the sense of picking him up, pointing out to him, scolding him when he behaves inappropriately, selfishly, etc. I am not a punishment-minded person but I would use what works. The truth is that trying to punish this child is simply impossible and counter-productive, whether at home or at school. I let natural consequences ensue when I can. Having said that, I am very far from perfect or from having perfect tools to deal with this child. I don't. So I am quite sure there are things I could do better, learn, etc. When he is being difficult, he is very difficult and anybody would find him so. Of course I do have sympathy for the school staff. But what I know is that the principal has refused to listen to me or take me seriously for three years on the subject of hyperactivity. I have lent her books, articles, proposed that she meet the psychiatrist, etc. She won't have any of it. She doesn't know about ADHD and she doesn't want to learn. I have also given articles about ADHD at school to his teacher, who told me he was too busy to read them... And I do rather take exception to the idea that I am giving him or think it desirable that he should have a free pass to do whatever he likes... Ummm. No. :) [/QUOTE]
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