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<blockquote data-quote="buddy" data-source="post: 580212" data-attributes="member: 12886"><p>Mostly it is ignorance. But the personal part is the parenting judgement. Really that's ignorance too because they don't understand the neurological basis so.of.course it's all on you. </p><p>That all happens here too. Every single place I've lived there have been some who judge even among the "professionals ". </p><p></p><p>The difference is that we also have many who do understand and resources and support. You are an island in that sense. Even if someone cares, they don't know enough to ongoingly support J.</p><p></p><p>I think small towns can be lovely and you couldn't have known this would happen. When you moved, you didn't even really know if he for sure had adhd, he was alot younger and hadn't started any academics. Many of us have to move for our kids and if you remember, Q wanted to stay even with people assaulting him and being locked in the house most days! I had to pack in secret and he ripped open my boxes. Kids will say they prefer to stay because they fear the unknown. Q now loves it here. We have to take on the perspective they can't possibly have but it's hard. Lot's of reassurance about the great new kids and classes and activities etc helps. I admit we did more free rewards like going to eat, chcking out new places etc. </p><p></p><p>It's too bad, you know J will not be their only child with an invisible disability. I hope the psychiatrist meeting will help. Are there any one-2 page handouts or simple books in French you can share? </p><p>Moving won't eliminate problems. You've been around enough to know that even with laws and trained professionals many of us still hit snags, but most of us have options and recourse. I.pray for that for you too. I.might be tempted to rent till I found the right location though, sigh.</p><p>Many hugs, keep your chin up. Nothing they say is based on true knowledge. Do lots of accurate self talk about the truth in this. You're doing your best as is J. It's just not a good match with this town now.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="buddy, post: 580212, member: 12886"] Mostly it is ignorance. But the personal part is the parenting judgement. Really that's ignorance too because they don't understand the neurological basis so.of.course it's all on you. That all happens here too. Every single place I've lived there have been some who judge even among the "professionals ". The difference is that we also have many who do understand and resources and support. You are an island in that sense. Even if someone cares, they don't know enough to ongoingly support J. I think small towns can be lovely and you couldn't have known this would happen. When you moved, you didn't even really know if he for sure had adhd, he was alot younger and hadn't started any academics. Many of us have to move for our kids and if you remember, Q wanted to stay even with people assaulting him and being locked in the house most days! I had to pack in secret and he ripped open my boxes. Kids will say they prefer to stay because they fear the unknown. Q now loves it here. We have to take on the perspective they can't possibly have but it's hard. Lot's of reassurance about the great new kids and classes and activities etc helps. I admit we did more free rewards like going to eat, chcking out new places etc. It's too bad, you know J will not be their only child with an invisible disability. I hope the psychiatrist meeting will help. Are there any one-2 page handouts or simple books in French you can share? Moving won't eliminate problems. You've been around enough to know that even with laws and trained professionals many of us still hit snags, but most of us have options and recourse. I.pray for that for you too. I.might be tempted to rent till I found the right location though, sigh. Many hugs, keep your chin up. Nothing they say is based on true knowledge. Do lots of accurate self talk about the truth in this. You're doing your best as is J. It's just not a good match with this town now. [/QUOTE]
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