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<blockquote data-quote="Malika" data-source="post: 580449" data-attributes="member: 11227"><p>I think she wrote "Chocolat", didn't she? In which case, I've seen the film... though such subjects are all a bit too close for comfort to be entertaining at the moment, I fear... <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p><p>I have had a horrible afternoon with J. Basically I've let these villagers get to me and I've been crashing down on J when he speaks to me rudely or won't listen - whereas normally I'd joke him out of it or turn things round - and again he has instantly got completely ODD, with me then getting crosser and crosser and it spiralling into a frankly sub-abusive place where I am just ashamed of myself. I don't know why he reacts like this whereas a "normal" child would just accept it. In any case, this is the place I was when I first starting come to the board, in desperation, and I do not want to go back - quite apart from the fact that it is so destructive to him and our relationship.</p><p>Why have I let them shake my confidence in myself and my approach?? We have built up a lot, J has been doing so well - despite what they say at the school - and I'm letting myself slide back into reactive, unskilful behaviours to placate people who are just ignorant (not said pejoratively, just as an accurate statement.)...</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Malika, post: 580449, member: 11227"] I think she wrote "Chocolat", didn't she? In which case, I've seen the film... though such subjects are all a bit too close for comfort to be entertaining at the moment, I fear... :) I have had a horrible afternoon with J. Basically I've let these villagers get to me and I've been crashing down on J when he speaks to me rudely or won't listen - whereas normally I'd joke him out of it or turn things round - and again he has instantly got completely ODD, with me then getting crosser and crosser and it spiralling into a frankly sub-abusive place where I am just ashamed of myself. I don't know why he reacts like this whereas a "normal" child would just accept it. In any case, this is the place I was when I first starting come to the board, in desperation, and I do not want to go back - quite apart from the fact that it is so destructive to him and our relationship. Why have I let them shake my confidence in myself and my approach?? We have built up a lot, J has been doing so well - despite what they say at the school - and I'm letting myself slide back into reactive, unskilful behaviours to placate people who are just ignorant (not said pejoratively, just as an accurate statement.)... [/QUOTE]
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