My daughter's creepy boyfriend is gone all the way (I think). I have not seen any of his things over at my daughters house and she is/was staying somewhat on track. I believe she is now dating a new person. This makes me nervous for several reasons. In the past when the guy finds out she lies about everything, sometimes they get so dangerously angry that I get worried for her life. I have seen this in the past and I have had to get involved so she would not be harmed.
Lately she is completely gone in her head. She talks constantly but does not say anything. She is on edge, lies flying right and left. It is horrible because I thought maybe she is getting a bit more balanced. I do understand that the feeling of falling in love changes all of us but when the person is bipolar/borderline it is a real mess.
The amount that she falls back during times like this are horrific. She quits working, does not keep herself or her house up and starts acting rude to everyone.
My deepest prayer has always been that she meets a decent man that does not effect her mania in such horrific and damaging ways.
I believe when a decent man see's her off/on personality he will not want to do so much work. I can't even imagine living as a partner with a habitual/compulsive liar and having any financial ties to such a person.
I know she can do something about it. I know she has studied a lot about it in the past year because she has talked to me about it. Even though she has studied it and is a very educated woman, she can't get from point A to B.
The very weird thing she does when she falls in love is tell the new man what a horrible person I am. She goes through this 'I hate my mom' stage. She is still ok with her dad but is really ugly to me. She calls me at least 3 times a day or texts. Somedays more. I know she needs me but tries to cut the ties. In the past when she cut the ties I felt some type of freedom like I don't have to listen to constant lies or feel used. I love her deeply and try to work with the constant BS that is thrown on me. It is a rough ride to say the least.
