Hi Newstart
My son is mentally ill and I suffer horribly the effects. I have found that strict boundaries help. My son knows he can't be around me if he is abusive or acts crazily. I am not equipped to deal with either on my home turf.
Your daughter will do what she will do. Nothing you can do, say, or think (as you know) will change this. The only potential control you have is over how you think and what you do.
If she is abusive to you, stay away, and don't talk to her. That is what I think.
As far as what she does with men, how in the world can you influence that?
Your hopes and dreams for you, have a chance of coming true. Your dreams for her, try to let them go.
Unless they are her dreams for herself, they are only your fantasies. Our fantasies while they seem self-protective, actually set us up to crash and burn, when reality sets in. And it always does. That is what I have come to for myself. It is very, very hard.
