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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 472764" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Attachment disorder is abnormal attachment. While you may be able to fit in with new "parents" (it can sometimes seem as if everyone is Mom and Dad to a child who is constantly being thrown around), it is hard to feel any real love or family type attachment. Then, on the other hand, much like my son whom we adopted at six years old, although he complained for years that he didn't feel a normal attachment to us (it bothered him), when he met his wife he OVERattached to her. She was IT. She always had to be at his side and still does. If she were different, she would not enjoy is level of attachment because many would find it suffocating. What Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) people can not do without a great deal of help if form normal attachments.</p><p>I would not let myself get too hurt if a Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) child acts detached. They can't help it. You are lucky she is not a danger to you and others because many Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) kids are pretty much antisocial personality disordered kids who don't have feelings for others. And don't care that they don't. </p><p>There are various levels of attachment problems. Basically, if you don't adopt a child very young, and if that child had a lot of caregivers, there is almost no way the child will not have attachment disorder or some sort. It is a coping mechanism. Because they can not count on anyone to take care of their needs, they learn early that only THEY can take care of themselves and soon they don't really trust letting anyone else in. And loving them usually does not help. It is complicated...</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 472764, member: 1550"] Attachment disorder is abnormal attachment. While you may be able to fit in with new "parents" (it can sometimes seem as if everyone is Mom and Dad to a child who is constantly being thrown around), it is hard to feel any real love or family type attachment. Then, on the other hand, much like my son whom we adopted at six years old, although he complained for years that he didn't feel a normal attachment to us (it bothered him), when he met his wife he OVERattached to her. She was IT. She always had to be at his side and still does. If she were different, she would not enjoy is level of attachment because many would find it suffocating. What Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) people can not do without a great deal of help if form normal attachments. I would not let myself get too hurt if a Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) child acts detached. They can't help it. You are lucky she is not a danger to you and others because many Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) kids are pretty much antisocial personality disordered kids who don't have feelings for others. And don't care that they don't. There are various levels of attachment problems. Basically, if you don't adopt a child very young, and if that child had a lot of caregivers, there is almost no way the child will not have attachment disorder or some sort. It is a coping mechanism. Because they can not count on anyone to take care of their needs, they learn early that only THEY can take care of themselves and soon they don't really trust letting anyone else in. And loving them usually does not help. It is complicated... [/QUOTE]
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