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<blockquote data-quote="mrsammler" data-source="post: 425704"><p>Regarding SusieStar's idea about a contract laying out expectations, consequences, etc: this makes perfect sense but I sincerely ask if this has worked for any of you so far. I'm sincerely curious about this, because my sister and I did exactly with that with her difficult child--wrote out a comprehensive contract regarding expectations and rules and consequences, and he literally signed it, and within a week he was breaking the contract flagrantly. It seemed to me in hindsight that it was a fool's errand because if he had been inclined to respect rules and expectations and agreements regarding conduct around the house, he would've already been doing it (the way PCs do routinely, without written contracts). It's like extracting a promise from a habitual speeder that he not speed anymore--the only drivers that would respect such an agreement are those who don't need it in the first place. I'm not saying I have a better idea--I'm just wondering if this one makes much sense. I welcome your thoughts on this.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="mrsammler, post: 425704"] Regarding SusieStar's idea about a contract laying out expectations, consequences, etc: this makes perfect sense but I sincerely ask if this has worked for any of you so far. I'm sincerely curious about this, because my sister and I did exactly with that with her difficult child--wrote out a comprehensive contract regarding expectations and rules and consequences, and he literally signed it, and within a week he was breaking the contract flagrantly. It seemed to me in hindsight that it was a fool's errand because if he had been inclined to respect rules and expectations and agreements regarding conduct around the house, he would've already been doing it (the way PCs do routinely, without written contracts). It's like extracting a promise from a habitual speeder that he not speed anymore--the only drivers that would respect such an agreement are those who don't need it in the first place. I'm not saying I have a better idea--I'm just wondering if this one makes much sense. I welcome your thoughts on this. [/QUOTE]
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