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<blockquote data-quote="CrazyinVA" data-source="post: 425751" data-attributes="member: 1157"><p>What Hound dog said <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /> It's not that the contract makes them any more likely to stick to the rules, it's that there is no question what the rules are, and you have something to point to when they are broken. in my opinion you can't look at it as a way to change your difficult child's behavior, only as a way to back yourself up. </p><p></p><p>A contract is worthless unless you enforce it. If a habitual speeder keeps speeding after promising not to, he loses his license or goes to jail. If your difficult child breaks the contract, they're put out of the house (or they suffer whatever consequences you put in the contract). If you don't follow through, it's pointless, and you lose credibility.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="CrazyinVA, post: 425751, member: 1157"] What Hound dog said :) It's not that the contract makes them any more likely to stick to the rules, it's that there is no question what the rules are, and you have something to point to when they are broken. in my opinion you can't look at it as a way to change your difficult child's behavior, only as a way to back yourself up. A contract is worthless unless you enforce it. If a habitual speeder keeps speeding after promising not to, he loses his license or goes to jail. If your difficult child breaks the contract, they're put out of the house (or they suffer whatever consequences you put in the contract). If you don't follow through, it's pointless, and you lose credibility. [/QUOTE]
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