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<blockquote data-quote="Scent of Cedar *" data-source="post: 669592" data-attributes="member: 17461"><p>Brene Brown writes that if we sit with the feelings ~ just have the feelings, naming them if we can or just sitting there if we can't name them ~ then we will be less afraid, the next time. It is as much the fear of the horror in it as it is what is actually happening that creates PTSD.</p><p></p><p>I think that is true.</p><p></p><p>For me, that is definitely true.</p><p></p><p>I hope that soon there are more good nights, or at least, better nights, than bad nights. Do you think it would help you to name the bad nights? To say, "I am having a bad night." I do that, sometimes. It helps me to name whatever I can about our situation.</p><p></p><p>"I am having a bad night, tonight."</p><p></p><p>It seems like such a simple thing, but sometimes, that helps me very much.</p><p></p><p>I crank up the Serenity Prayer, and say it and say it. Then, either I fall asleep or morning comes.</p><p></p><p>What is happening to all of us is very, very hard.</p><p></p><p>I think PTSD is not controllable.</p><p></p><p>But like I posted, it helps me very much to name where I am.</p><p></p><p>Then, I can know it will pass.</p><p></p><p>I think you are experiencing Complex PTSD. (Splitting hairs is my specialty.)</p><p></p><p><img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/smile.png" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":smile:" title="smile :smile:" data-shortname=":smile:" /></p><p></p><p>They say the practice of yoga helps release the places our muscles are holding unresolved tension. This is what I use:</p><p></p><p>[MEDIA=youtube]TtJS-5xZnTs[/MEDIA]</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>It might help him Feeling, if you could explain to him the theory about believing he can do this and reflecting that to him.</p><p></p><p>It has made a very nice difference for my kids, to express belief in their abilities to create success in their lives. If I am overwhelmed with worry for them, they seem to be, too. It gets to be a vicious circle where I am trying to find answers they can only provide for themselves.</p><p></p><p>It is very hard to let them go to learn this.</p><p></p><p>As you know.</p><p></p><p>But maybe, that kind of thinking could be helpful for your son. It might also give him a way to know how to speak with his brother in a strengthening way.</p><p></p><p>It is very hard not to let our fears for them come through in our speech, but I think it helps the kids when we can express belief in them, and confidence that though we get it that they don't know how to do this, we do know that they can. </p><p></p><p>Cedar</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Scent of Cedar *, post: 669592, member: 17461"] Brene Brown writes that if we sit with the feelings ~ just have the feelings, naming them if we can or just sitting there if we can't name them ~ then we will be less afraid, the next time. It is as much the fear of the horror in it as it is what is actually happening that creates PTSD. I think that is true. For me, that is definitely true. I hope that soon there are more good nights, or at least, better nights, than bad nights. Do you think it would help you to name the bad nights? To say, "I am having a bad night." I do that, sometimes. It helps me to name whatever I can about our situation. "I am having a bad night, tonight." It seems like such a simple thing, but sometimes, that helps me very much. I crank up the Serenity Prayer, and say it and say it. Then, either I fall asleep or morning comes. What is happening to all of us is very, very hard. I think PTSD is not controllable. But like I posted, it helps me very much to name where I am. Then, I can know it will pass. I think you are experiencing Complex PTSD. (Splitting hairs is my specialty.) :smile: They say the practice of yoga helps release the places our muscles are holding unresolved tension. This is what I use: [MEDIA=youtube]TtJS-5xZnTs[/MEDIA] It might help him Feeling, if you could explain to him the theory about believing he can do this and reflecting that to him. It has made a very nice difference for my kids, to express belief in their abilities to create success in their lives. If I am overwhelmed with worry for them, they seem to be, too. It gets to be a vicious circle where I am trying to find answers they can only provide for themselves. It is very hard to let them go to learn this. As you know. But maybe, that kind of thinking could be helpful for your son. It might also give him a way to know how to speak with his brother in a strengthening way. It is very hard not to let our fears for them come through in our speech, but I think it helps the kids when we can express belief in them, and confidence that though we get it that they don't know how to do this, we do know that they can. Cedar [/QUOTE]
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