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<blockquote data-quote="dreamwallaby" data-source="post: 412743" data-attributes="member: 11338"><p>I also have a 6 yr old boy dxd with ADHD and ODD. He is on Vyvanse prescribed by his pediatrician but we are also going to a Children's Hospital for testing and a therapy doctor to help with the behavioral issues. I know how frustrating the whole thing can be. My son can be a doll one minute and the next he is ripping apart his room, shoving me, cursing and doing anything he can to NOT do what he is suppose to do. I've done all the punishing, yelling, spanking. We've done all the reward charts, goal earning and over praising. We've ignored and threatened and none of this ever worked. The first step for me was reading "The Explosive Child" and realizing that my child would do good if he could do good. He doesn't like the person he can be at times and he is angry, scared and wishes things were easier for him so he could "be like everyone else". No one wants to be screamed at all the time, no one wants to be the center of all negative attention. He is literally missing the skills necessary to handle certain situations and demands placed on him. For example : If he couldn't run very well, I would not be screaming at him and taking his toys or demanding that he run miles and yet he can't cope with stress very well and I had been screaming at him, taking toys and demanding that he handle it. It's not a very productive way to handle his disability and only made things worse. I have laid in bed at night crying for hours, feeling like the worst mom in the world for how our relationship had ended up. I have a wonderful, bright, funny child who needs me to better understand what he is trying to say. I also am in the process of training myself that I don't always have to win and don't always have to be right, that letting him make choices, even wrong ones, is ok. That I don't have to argue everything with him. I am new to this site but it seems very supportive and I hope you are able to find a lot of answers to help you and your son. The website that goes with the book is <a href="http://www.livesinthebalance.org" target="_blank">www.livesinthebalance.org</a> Also, if you click on "videos" above and scroll down the right side to ODD, you can watch a debate between the author and another dr, good information worth watching.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="dreamwallaby, post: 412743, member: 11338"] I also have a 6 yr old boy dxd with ADHD and ODD. He is on Vyvanse prescribed by his pediatrician but we are also going to a Children's Hospital for testing and a therapy doctor to help with the behavioral issues. I know how frustrating the whole thing can be. My son can be a doll one minute and the next he is ripping apart his room, shoving me, cursing and doing anything he can to NOT do what he is suppose to do. I've done all the punishing, yelling, spanking. We've done all the reward charts, goal earning and over praising. We've ignored and threatened and none of this ever worked. The first step for me was reading "The Explosive Child" and realizing that my child would do good if he could do good. He doesn't like the person he can be at times and he is angry, scared and wishes things were easier for him so he could "be like everyone else". No one wants to be screamed at all the time, no one wants to be the center of all negative attention. He is literally missing the skills necessary to handle certain situations and demands placed on him. For example : If he couldn't run very well, I would not be screaming at him and taking his toys or demanding that he run miles and yet he can't cope with stress very well and I had been screaming at him, taking toys and demanding that he handle it. It's not a very productive way to handle his disability and only made things worse. I have laid in bed at night crying for hours, feeling like the worst mom in the world for how our relationship had ended up. I have a wonderful, bright, funny child who needs me to better understand what he is trying to say. I also am in the process of training myself that I don't always have to win and don't always have to be right, that letting him make choices, even wrong ones, is ok. That I don't have to argue everything with him. I am new to this site but it seems very supportive and I hope you are able to find a lot of answers to help you and your son. The website that goes with the book is [URL="http://www.livesinthebalance.org"]www.livesinthebalance.org[/URL] Also, if you click on "videos" above and scroll down the right side to ODD, you can watch a debate between the author and another dr, good information worth watching. [/QUOTE]
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