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<blockquote data-quote="rlsnights" data-source="post: 413241" data-attributes="member: 7948"><p>He is capable of A's with an IQ 135+ but I'd just be happy to get him on the campus for now. He really does like school once he gets there. But he's so far behind so often that I think he gets really anxious and then he won't go so it's a vicious circle.</p><p></p><p>Yes, the entitlement is really huge right now. It waxes and wanes and I think it is a combo of mood issues - grandiosity in kid/teen form - and anxiety.</p><p></p><p>It's so easy with him to see the defiance and entitlement as just plain arrogance and being spoiled. Doesn't excuse it but it's hard to get even psychiatrists who haven't worked with him over time to see that more is going on than just spoiled brat stuff. And believe me, while we may not always have been perfect, we were far from spoiling him all these years. We have seen this behavior since he was very little - certainly by age 3. But you can't tell people that more is going on than just defiance and entitlement. They think you are being defensive and take it as proof that he's spoiled. The fact that his language skills are very sophisticated (college level along with his reading level) only makes things worse I think. Apparently you're not mentally ill if you can still use big words. <img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/emoticons/crazy2.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":crazy2:" title="crazy :crazy2:" data-shortname=":crazy2:" /></p><p></p><p>But when he was in psychiatric hospital last April/May they had him for 4 weeks between in-patient and partial and then again for 3 more weeks the next month. And both the psychiatrist and the partial staff decided by the second week of the first hospitalization that it was bipolar hypomania + ideas of reference + anxiety. The partial staff felt he was actually delusional at times but the psychiatrist said no she didn't agree. The psychiatrist said he needed an SED placement in a NPS but he acts so normal at school there was no way we were going to get that. Anyway, he was sooo much better after that round of treatment. He's steadily slipped downhill since then.</p><p></p><p>I hope he gets a good PO and pray for wraparound services. If we are screwing up and making things worse I want to know it and get help figuring out what to do instead. If this is mostly mental illness then I'm hoping it will help to have outsiders see what's going on so we can get him a placement that addresses these issues better.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="rlsnights, post: 413241, member: 7948"] He is capable of A's with an IQ 135+ but I'd just be happy to get him on the campus for now. He really does like school once he gets there. But he's so far behind so often that I think he gets really anxious and then he won't go so it's a vicious circle. Yes, the entitlement is really huge right now. It waxes and wanes and I think it is a combo of mood issues - grandiosity in kid/teen form - and anxiety. It's so easy with him to see the defiance and entitlement as just plain arrogance and being spoiled. Doesn't excuse it but it's hard to get even psychiatrists who haven't worked with him over time to see that more is going on than just spoiled brat stuff. And believe me, while we may not always have been perfect, we were far from spoiling him all these years. We have seen this behavior since he was very little - certainly by age 3. But you can't tell people that more is going on than just defiance and entitlement. They think you are being defensive and take it as proof that he's spoiled. The fact that his language skills are very sophisticated (college level along with his reading level) only makes things worse I think. Apparently you're not mentally ill if you can still use big words. :crazy2: But when he was in psychiatric hospital last April/May they had him for 4 weeks between in-patient and partial and then again for 3 more weeks the next month. And both the psychiatrist and the partial staff decided by the second week of the first hospitalization that it was bipolar hypomania + ideas of reference + anxiety. The partial staff felt he was actually delusional at times but the psychiatrist said no she didn't agree. The psychiatrist said he needed an SED placement in a NPS but he acts so normal at school there was no way we were going to get that. Anyway, he was sooo much better after that round of treatment. He's steadily slipped downhill since then. I hope he gets a good PO and pray for wraparound services. If we are screwing up and making things worse I want to know it and get help figuring out what to do instead. If this is mostly mental illness then I'm hoping it will help to have outsiders see what's going on so we can get him a placement that addresses these issues better. [/QUOTE]
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