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<blockquote data-quote="sharziey" data-source="post: 452781" data-attributes="member: 12601"><p>Hi all, wow- thanks for the responses. I don't understand all the acronyms at the bottom of the emails, but I figure that will come later. To answer some of the questions, there is a history of issues in the family. </p><p></p><p>His father was/is a drug addict and an alcoholic who self medicated his ADHD with booze and pot and other drugs. The 14 years I managed to stay with him were beyond hell. He of course insists there is nothing wrong with him and nothing wrong with his son, but the rest of the world sees reality.</p><p>His father currently lives with his white trash girlfriend in Yellowknife after abandoning his children because apparently the North Pole is far enough away from his children and responsibilities. </p><p></p><p>My son has had an IEP at school for the last two years and attends resource for 1 hour a day to assist with reading. He began with not even 4 yr old reading level and ended last year at second grade reading level. Compared to where we started, it was a HUGE improvement. We did have multiple behavior issues almost every day with school and I never went an entire week without getting a call from the principal, teacher, and/or school psychologist.</p><p></p><p> We started him out in first grade on Adderol and had him taking 10 mg twice a day, but adjusted the afternoon dose to 5 mg in order to mitigate the no appetite no weight gain no sleep issue. It still wasn't quite working the way we would have hoped, and during the summers when his dad had him, His Dad would agree to give him his medicine at first, but since he doesn't believe there is anything wrong with my son, his Dad would then sell it to one of his druggie friends.</p><p></p><p>Approx 3 weeks ago the Dr- a regular family practitioner who stated he also has ADHD, suggested we try 27 mg of Concerta once a day. I think that the Adderol worked better at controlling the behavior personally, but am willing to give this Concerta a try only for the fact that it doesn't seem to be impacting his appetite or sleep as much. </p><p></p><p>I have my son enrolled in a charter school this upcoming school year. It is not run like a traditional school and has smaller class sizes so I'm desperately hoping that this may work better for school that the traditional over-populated class room. This school allows each child to work at their own pace and focuses less on rote/one size fits all lessons and teaching methods. Shrugging shoulders- at any rate- its worth a shot.</p><p></p><p>The other children in the house include my 7 yr old step-son, my 12 year old daughter, and my 14 yr old step-son. They each have their own rooms and we learned quickly to not allow any children in the other's rooms and we now have "everyone" toys downstairs with their own toys staying in their own rooms and only the child that they belong to can play with them.</p><p></p><p>I called the doctors office today to get a referral to a psychiatrist- will try my husbands insurance as well- see where we can get him in the soonest. My husband also feels that there is maybe something more than ADHD going on. My son's diagnoses came about after multiple problems in first grade and so I gave my approval for a battery of tests and monitoring for over a month, which we then shared with his primary care dr who ran more tests and came up with ADHD and ODD.</p><p></p><p>We have read Driven to Distraction, No More Backtalk, I have From Chaos to Calm and the Edison Trait as well- but haven't finished reading them yet. I have tried multiple theories and behavior techniques but like I said- they only work temporarily. Time out seems to be the most effective (the term effective being very loosely applied) in that truly nothing seems to stop/control/or mitigate the behavior for any length of time.</p><p></p><p>A good day is very rare and usually includes only minor behavior issues that you would expect from any child.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="sharziey, post: 452781, member: 12601"] Hi all, wow- thanks for the responses. I don't understand all the acronyms at the bottom of the emails, but I figure that will come later. To answer some of the questions, there is a history of issues in the family. His father was/is a drug addict and an alcoholic who self medicated his ADHD with booze and pot and other drugs. The 14 years I managed to stay with him were beyond hell. He of course insists there is nothing wrong with him and nothing wrong with his son, but the rest of the world sees reality. His father currently lives with his white trash girlfriend in Yellowknife after abandoning his children because apparently the North Pole is far enough away from his children and responsibilities. My son has had an IEP at school for the last two years and attends resource for 1 hour a day to assist with reading. He began with not even 4 yr old reading level and ended last year at second grade reading level. Compared to where we started, it was a HUGE improvement. We did have multiple behavior issues almost every day with school and I never went an entire week without getting a call from the principal, teacher, and/or school psychologist. We started him out in first grade on Adderol and had him taking 10 mg twice a day, but adjusted the afternoon dose to 5 mg in order to mitigate the no appetite no weight gain no sleep issue. It still wasn't quite working the way we would have hoped, and during the summers when his dad had him, His Dad would agree to give him his medicine at first, but since he doesn't believe there is anything wrong with my son, his Dad would then sell it to one of his druggie friends. Approx 3 weeks ago the Dr- a regular family practitioner who stated he also has ADHD, suggested we try 27 mg of Concerta once a day. I think that the Adderol worked better at controlling the behavior personally, but am willing to give this Concerta a try only for the fact that it doesn't seem to be impacting his appetite or sleep as much. I have my son enrolled in a charter school this upcoming school year. It is not run like a traditional school and has smaller class sizes so I'm desperately hoping that this may work better for school that the traditional over-populated class room. This school allows each child to work at their own pace and focuses less on rote/one size fits all lessons and teaching methods. Shrugging shoulders- at any rate- its worth a shot. The other children in the house include my 7 yr old step-son, my 12 year old daughter, and my 14 yr old step-son. They each have their own rooms and we learned quickly to not allow any children in the other's rooms and we now have "everyone" toys downstairs with their own toys staying in their own rooms and only the child that they belong to can play with them. I called the doctors office today to get a referral to a psychiatrist- will try my husbands insurance as well- see where we can get him in the soonest. My husband also feels that there is maybe something more than ADHD going on. My son's diagnoses came about after multiple problems in first grade and so I gave my approval for a battery of tests and monitoring for over a month, which we then shared with his primary care dr who ran more tests and came up with ADHD and ODD. We have read Driven to Distraction, No More Backtalk, I have From Chaos to Calm and the Edison Trait as well- but haven't finished reading them yet. I have tried multiple theories and behavior techniques but like I said- they only work temporarily. Time out seems to be the most effective (the term effective being very loosely applied) in that truly nothing seems to stop/control/or mitigate the behavior for any length of time. A good day is very rare and usually includes only minor behavior issues that you would expect from any child. [/QUOTE]
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