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<blockquote data-quote="Nomad" data-source="post: 221405"><p>Over the past 20 years, I have spoken with countless medical professionals "off the record."</p><p>The have ALL told me, that they have more adopted patients (adopted as infants and otherwise) with mental health issues proportionately than not. In addition, one told me that some of these cases seem to be more severe than typical. I know several teachers of severeally emotionally handicapped children, and they also feel that the numbers are disproproportional. This doesn't mean that both groups have not seen perfectly healthy adopted children...it's just that the numbers seem "off to them." When I was writing, I asked a few of these people if they would let me quote them about what they have observed and they all said "no way." </p><p> </p><p>Like Meobunny said, perhaps some families decide to "compensate" for family difficulties by thinking there could be a gentic link and deciding to either not have children or to limit the number of children they have. With adoption, this is often not the case. In fact, SOMETIMES birthmothers have multiple children and sometimes birthfathers also have difficulties. If both mom and dad are difficult children, the chances that the child will be a difficult child are very high and so the cycle repeats...</p><p> </p><p>It might not be a bad idea for the media to feature positive adoption stories so that children don't get a bad rap needlessly. However, I do think social workers and those in the medical field should be open and honest.</p><p> </p><p>by the way, the main reason I'm in graduate school is to be a therapist for families of difficult children or gravely ill children. I think few really understand the full impact.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nomad, post: 221405"] Over the past 20 years, I have spoken with countless medical professionals "off the record." The have ALL told me, that they have more adopted patients (adopted as infants and otherwise) with mental health issues proportionately than not. In addition, one told me that some of these cases seem to be more severe than typical. I know several teachers of severeally emotionally handicapped children, and they also feel that the numbers are disproproportional. This doesn't mean that both groups have not seen perfectly healthy adopted children...it's just that the numbers seem "off to them." When I was writing, I asked a few of these people if they would let me quote them about what they have observed and they all said "no way." Like Meobunny said, perhaps some families decide to "compensate" for family difficulties by thinking there could be a gentic link and deciding to either not have children or to limit the number of children they have. With adoption, this is often not the case. In fact, SOMETIMES birthmothers have multiple children and sometimes birthfathers also have difficulties. If both mom and dad are difficult children, the chances that the child will be a difficult child are very high and so the cycle repeats... It might not be a bad idea for the media to feature positive adoption stories so that children don't get a bad rap needlessly. However, I do think social workers and those in the medical field should be open and honest. by the way, the main reason I'm in graduate school is to be a therapist for families of difficult children or gravely ill children. I think few really understand the full impact. [/QUOTE]
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