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<blockquote data-quote="Shari" data-source="post: 221441" data-attributes="member: 1848"><p>I have been closely related to 3 adoption for years from several different perspectives.</p><p> </p><p>All three were adopted as infants. </p><p> </p><p>Infant #1 is the happy ever after story. A 30-something easy child in every right.</p><p> </p><p>Infant #2 is middle aged, hates his birth parents (tho never found them), has all sorts of problems, and spent most of his teen years living with someone other than his parents. He would have been sent to Residential Treatment Center (RTC) had he NOT been adopted. Major difficult child.</p><p> </p><p>Infant #3 is in his mid-20's. The adoption was disrupted when he was 11 and he was sent back to his birth mother. He has since made amends with his adopted family and includes them all in his family tree, but it is certainly not a happy ever after tale. Another easy child.</p><p> </p><p>Thru these adoptees, I have learned of an organization for birth parents. I'm sure difficult child birth parents don't join it, but it is an interesting group, largely made of people who went on to be successful.</p><p> </p><p>I'm not arguing one side of this coin or the other, but I think, along with a lot of other things, perceptions of how "perfect" it can be are skewed for a number of reasons, both related to and not related to being adopted. And I don't think that is info that is shared when new parents bring home that bundle of joy.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Shari, post: 221441, member: 1848"] I have been closely related to 3 adoption for years from several different perspectives. All three were adopted as infants. Infant #1 is the happy ever after story. A 30-something easy child in every right. Infant #2 is middle aged, hates his birth parents (tho never found them), has all sorts of problems, and spent most of his teen years living with someone other than his parents. He would have been sent to Residential Treatment Center (RTC) had he NOT been adopted. Major difficult child. Infant #3 is in his mid-20's. The adoption was disrupted when he was 11 and he was sent back to his birth mother. He has since made amends with his adopted family and includes them all in his family tree, but it is certainly not a happy ever after tale. Another easy child. Thru these adoptees, I have learned of an organization for birth parents. I'm sure difficult child birth parents don't join it, but it is an interesting group, largely made of people who went on to be successful. I'm not arguing one side of this coin or the other, but I think, along with a lot of other things, perceptions of how "perfect" it can be are skewed for a number of reasons, both related to and not related to being adopted. And I don't think that is info that is shared when new parents bring home that bundle of joy. [/QUOTE]
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