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<blockquote data-quote="TerryJ2" data-source="post: 182917" data-attributes="member: 3419"><p>No! I think it sounds perfect.</p><p>In fact, I had something similar happen with-my difficult child today. He is grounded from playing with-his friends (in particular, going to anyone else's house because ... well, you know all about that!) and of course, he is trying to negotiate. Today he asked if, instead of going to B's house, could B come over here? I said no, but of course, difficult child said he was going to talk to husband. husband and I talked about it and I said no. Flat out no. No negotiating on this until we talk to the child psychiatric on Wed., in reg. to difficult child's behavior last wk. And I've told difficult child that several times.</p><p>So husband told difficult child and I waited for the meltdown.</p><p>Nothing happened. Wow.</p><p>There's a first time for everything.</p><p>Just a few min. ago, I called him into my ofc and asked him why he didn't have a tantrum.</p><p>He told me he was shocked when husband told him no. (I think, too shocked to react.) He was convinced he would earn it back.</p><p>He also told me that part of it was the medication (wow, the first time he admitted it helped him!!!!) and said something along the lines of how he is thinking (it took him a good ten min. to get the explanation out but I waited and didn't put words in his mouth), and just the fact that he is <em>thinking </em>instead of reacting is a great thing. I told him that and I said he is growing up.</p><p> </p><p>To any other parent, this would sound bizarre, but hey, these are difficult child's we're talking about. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="TerryJ2, post: 182917, member: 3419"] No! I think it sounds perfect. In fact, I had something similar happen with-my difficult child today. He is grounded from playing with-his friends (in particular, going to anyone else's house because ... well, you know all about that!) and of course, he is trying to negotiate. Today he asked if, instead of going to B's house, could B come over here? I said no, but of course, difficult child said he was going to talk to husband. husband and I talked about it and I said no. Flat out no. No negotiating on this until we talk to the child psychiatric on Wed., in reg. to difficult child's behavior last wk. And I've told difficult child that several times. So husband told difficult child and I waited for the meltdown. Nothing happened. Wow. There's a first time for everything. Just a few min. ago, I called him into my ofc and asked him why he didn't have a tantrum. He told me he was shocked when husband told him no. (I think, too shocked to react.) He was convinced he would earn it back. He also told me that part of it was the medication (wow, the first time he admitted it helped him!!!!) and said something along the lines of how he is thinking (it took him a good ten min. to get the explanation out but I waited and didn't put words in his mouth), and just the fact that he is [I]thinking [/I]instead of reacting is a great thing. I told him that and I said he is growing up. To any other parent, this would sound bizarre, but hey, these are difficult child's we're talking about. :) [/QUOTE]
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