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<blockquote data-quote="saving grace" data-source="post: 111198" data-attributes="member: 1538"><p>jgreen, welcome to our little part of the world. Your story is familiar, you will get some great advice here and this is mine</p><p></p><p>You have done more than enough for your son. My thought is maybe he should work 100 hours in a kitchen, let him get a real taste of life. He will soon realize that the military or college wasnt such a bad idea. </p><p></p><p>Does he hang around with a certain group of people that he keeps going back to? How does he get along with his new siblings? Has he ever had any counseling?</p><p></p><p>Step back, let him live with is father, he will make his own decisions, good or bad he has to suffer the consequences of those choices. Right now you have to accept that the dream you had for your son will not be realized, many of us here have been in your shoes and our dreams have long been lost but we have new ones, we dream and pray that our difficult child's stay alive, that they get a job, any job, that they stay out of jail, that they smile today. They are different dreams but dreams still the same. </p><p></p><p>I remember going to bed everynite and just hoping to God the phone didnt ring that night telling me he was dead. </p><p></p><p>Your son will come through the other side of this, maybe not doing what you hoped but he will be ok. Love him, support him but do not enable him, do not make everything ok for him, do not put him in the path that you think will lead him to your dream. He needs to make his own journey. </p><p></p><p>Chin up my friend, take this time that he is away and breathe. </p><p></p><p>Grace</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="saving grace, post: 111198, member: 1538"] jgreen, welcome to our little part of the world. Your story is familiar, you will get some great advice here and this is mine You have done more than enough for your son. My thought is maybe he should work 100 hours in a kitchen, let him get a real taste of life. He will soon realize that the military or college wasnt such a bad idea. Does he hang around with a certain group of people that he keeps going back to? How does he get along with his new siblings? Has he ever had any counseling? Step back, let him live with is father, he will make his own decisions, good or bad he has to suffer the consequences of those choices. Right now you have to accept that the dream you had for your son will not be realized, many of us here have been in your shoes and our dreams have long been lost but we have new ones, we dream and pray that our difficult child's stay alive, that they get a job, any job, that they stay out of jail, that they smile today. They are different dreams but dreams still the same. I remember going to bed everynite and just hoping to God the phone didnt ring that night telling me he was dead. Your son will come through the other side of this, maybe not doing what you hoped but he will be ok. Love him, support him but do not enable him, do not make everything ok for him, do not put him in the path that you think will lead him to your dream. He needs to make his own journey. Chin up my friend, take this time that he is away and breathe. Grace [/QUOTE]
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