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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 111611" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>I am sorry you are going through this. This is a really good place to be for parents. There are quite a few who have been through this. Our case was not as severe, but we did have to send my son to live with my parents. I think it saved his life. We were blessed (NOT lucky, not by any means. BLESSED).</p><p></p><p>It may come to the point of refusing to bail him out. It may be the best lesson he can learn. There are times we have to step back and let our kids feel the full weight of the consequences of their actions.</p><p></p><p>I can say that you need locks on EVERY door in your house, and you need to use them. Good strong key locks. Keys around your neck. It will protect YOU. It may be a very short step to very dangerous assault on you or the rest of your family.</p><p></p><p>While you love him, you DO have to protect your other kids no matter what. We faced this, and it nearly tore us apart. It was truly devastating.</p><p></p><p>How is he with his siblings? Maybe with him not home for a while you can gently talk to them and make sure he is not hurting them or using them to hide his things.</p><p></p><p>I am so very sorry. It stinks when we have to cope with this, live like this. I can see your love for your son in every sentence you write. I can also see your pain.</p><p></p><p>We are here for you.</p><p></p><p>Hugs,</p><p></p><p>Susie</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 111611, member: 1233"] I am sorry you are going through this. This is a really good place to be for parents. There are quite a few who have been through this. Our case was not as severe, but we did have to send my son to live with my parents. I think it saved his life. We were blessed (NOT lucky, not by any means. BLESSED). It may come to the point of refusing to bail him out. It may be the best lesson he can learn. There are times we have to step back and let our kids feel the full weight of the consequences of their actions. I can say that you need locks on EVERY door in your house, and you need to use them. Good strong key locks. Keys around your neck. It will protect YOU. It may be a very short step to very dangerous assault on you or the rest of your family. While you love him, you DO have to protect your other kids no matter what. We faced this, and it nearly tore us apart. It was truly devastating. How is he with his siblings? Maybe with him not home for a while you can gently talk to them and make sure he is not hurting them or using them to hide his things. I am so very sorry. It stinks when we have to cope with this, live like this. I can see your love for your son in every sentence you write. I can also see your pain. We are here for you. Hugs, Susie [/QUOTE]
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