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<blockquote data-quote="standswithcourage" data-source="post: 114334" data-attributes="member: 3948"><p>Oh my! It sounds all too familiar to me. My son at 17 was ADHD also. He was diagnosed in first grade. He was ok up until high school when his peers changed and so did everything else. He would not take his prescribed medicine and chose to use pot instead and anything he could get his hands on. He also dropped out of school. At that time we had already been going to a counselor and so had he. She suggested he get a job and see what the real world was about. He did but his friends would find him at his job and that caused him to lose a lot of jobs. So we went to doctors, counselors, police, judges, everywhere even several rehabs and nothing helped. He was destroying our family and our home. We loved him - he is the oldest and still love him but we had to let him go. We told him his behavior was not acceptable in our home - he lived with friends for a while - that was worse. Everytime he wound up[ in jail we would let him come home after he got released and it would go right back to the same friends, etc. So now he is in jail for contributing to the deliquency of a minor - we told him not to mess with kids under his age - especially if they or he were going to do anything illegal - h e would not listen. So - he has been in jail awaiting his court date since Oct. 07 - we will not bail him out - it is hard - but the more you enable him to repeat his behavior and wreak havoc on your home the more he will continue. It sounded so crazy to me for years but I think I am finally getting it. I thought why does our family - all intact - did fun things together - great extended family have to go through this. They need help but dont want it untiil they have to get it themselves. The only advice is go to an Alanon support group for parents of children that abuse substances - also - dont take him into your house if he is destroying it. Hang in there.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="standswithcourage, post: 114334, member: 3948"] Oh my! It sounds all too familiar to me. My son at 17 was ADHD also. He was diagnosed in first grade. He was ok up until high school when his peers changed and so did everything else. He would not take his prescribed medicine and chose to use pot instead and anything he could get his hands on. He also dropped out of school. At that time we had already been going to a counselor and so had he. She suggested he get a job and see what the real world was about. He did but his friends would find him at his job and that caused him to lose a lot of jobs. So we went to doctors, counselors, police, judges, everywhere even several rehabs and nothing helped. He was destroying our family and our home. We loved him - he is the oldest and still love him but we had to let him go. We told him his behavior was not acceptable in our home - he lived with friends for a while - that was worse. Everytime he wound up[ in jail we would let him come home after he got released and it would go right back to the same friends, etc. So now he is in jail for contributing to the deliquency of a minor - we told him not to mess with kids under his age - especially if they or he were going to do anything illegal - h e would not listen. So - he has been in jail awaiting his court date since Oct. 07 - we will not bail him out - it is hard - but the more you enable him to repeat his behavior and wreak havoc on your home the more he will continue. It sounded so crazy to me for years but I think I am finally getting it. I thought why does our family - all intact - did fun things together - great extended family have to go through this. They need help but dont want it untiil they have to get it themselves. The only advice is go to an Alanon support group for parents of children that abuse substances - also - dont take him into your house if he is destroying it. Hang in there. [/QUOTE]
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