Helpless:
I totally agree with the others. Copa nailed it.
If I had been easy on my son he probably would not be on this earth. It was the hardest thing I ever had to do but I am so glad that God gave me the strength to do it. I am so happy with our outcome that I want to shout it on the mountaintops! I know every situation is different and that we always think ours is a special one and each and every one truly is special!!
Your son wants to put the cart before the horse. He has chosen to live this hard life. HIM not YOU. They'd like to do as they wish and have us foot the bill and suffer the consequences and many of us do that until WE wise up. This is truly a fight for life or death in my opinion; it was for us; I know that to be true.
It is normal that you are sad. You need to give yourself some self-compassion and realize how hard this is on you. It's okay to grieve for yourself too. You must. This is a very hard time in your life and I hope and pray that it all ends well for you and that your son figures this thing out.
A mother is only as happy as her saddest child.
My son still does not acknowledge what happened to our family and someday I know that we will need to have that very hard conversation but for now I am just happy.
Bad times make us appreciate the good times so much more....
