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<blockquote data-quote="Star*" data-source="post: 139416" data-attributes="member: 4964"><p>Hi jen, </p><p></p><p>You know - I have thought/pondered that my son was BiPolar (BP) for years. His biofather is, his biofathers mom was. What I see my son do - can be classified into so many different things. At one point when he was 10 I had someone one day say "He is most definitely BiPolar (BP)" and then the next test with a different doctor "He is a budding schizophrenic." If I pulled out all the paperwork from years gone by and lumped them together his diagnosis would be - </p><p></p><p>ADHD, Depression due to divorce, Severe ADHD, PTSD, Depression, Severe PTSD, Budding PB, Budding Schizoprhrenic, Possible Borderline PD, Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD), Sensory Integration Disorder (SID), CD, CDD with ADHD and severe PTSD, CDD with emerging BiPolar (BP) with narcissistic traits and possible borderline tendencies. And last but NOT least - Child fine mother needs psychiatric help. THEN the most recent psycho. evaluation. He is Severe ADHD, Severe PTSD, Depression, Oppositional Defiant Disorder and budding Sociopath/Anti=social personality disorder. </p><p></p><p>Who are you going to believe? When I got the first BiPolar (BP) diagnosis I thought - (slap head) well THAT explains it - and some classes of SSRI's made him very angry and violent, others were tolerable. Ritalin made him aggressive, and I can list 5 dozen plus medications. that we tried in a carousel fashion and none helped. Not even a little bit. if I had to pick one that seemed to help him at all - Clonodine for sleep. But he has such severe PTSD about biofather coming to kill us - it took .10 to .20 to knock him out and then I got so worried I had to put a mirror under his nose to see fog if he was breathing or not. And after that he couldnt' function during the day. </p><p></p><p>I am surprised your doctor didn't mention the effects of Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. It's a very real, very life -altering disorder. What your daughter is suffering from sounds more to me like that - than anything else. She has had SO MUCH stress in her life that she just kept putting it back and putting it away and hiding in or not knowing it was bothering her and because of that she can maintain at school - and explodes at home because at least there - she knows she has someone that cares about her. Dude (my son) was ENRAGED at me for years and supressed it because I paid the bills, the mortgage, bought the food and he knew that on a subconscious level but deeper yet - blamed me for abandoning him with his crazy bio father (not) and allowing horrible things to happen while I lived the life of a princess - (what bio dad told him) and didn't care about him at all. So when I took him - he hated me. It took him years to blurt out I hate you and mean it. Then fall apart and say some of the things that were bottled up inside. </p><p></p><p>Kids don't have the ability to deal with stress at young ages so they develop their own coping skills to survive. The divorce probably DID affect her more than you know. The fact that you've moved a couple of times, the fact that financially it's been hit and miss (all same things here) and over the years - kids sometimes with Conduct disorders or PTSD are able to hold it together in school but not home or not at school but an angel at home...leaving you to wonder what they are doing to her in school. </p><p></p><p>So my suggestion is not to be too hasty to dismiss this doctors findings. Stress manifests itself in so many ways. THE GOOD NEWS is that your daughter is still young and would benefit GREATLY from talking to someone either in Cognitive Behavior THerapy (alters bad logic) and/or play therapy. Play therapy was awesome. </p><p></p><p>Just thought i would share a different point of view - I never believed Dude even had ADHD - and today I still don't think he has it. I DO know that PTSD has dominated his life due to the circumstances in his life and childhood and it nearly wrecked him as a person. He wasnt' able to hold it together at home or school and slept in the closet, under the bed, between the wall and the bed, or under the mattress for years - and with a butcher knife. THAT is stress. Up all night down all day - up all night and all day with no rhyme or reason and sometimes me BEGGING HIM TO PLEASE just lay down for 10 minutes so I could recoup? Stress. </p><p></p><p>I feel for ya. </p><p>Hugs</p><p>Star</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Star*, post: 139416, member: 4964"] Hi jen, You know - I have thought/pondered that my son was BiPolar (BP) for years. His biofather is, his biofathers mom was. What I see my son do - can be classified into so many different things. At one point when he was 10 I had someone one day say "He is most definitely BiPolar (BP)" and then the next test with a different doctor "He is a budding schizophrenic." If I pulled out all the paperwork from years gone by and lumped them together his diagnosis would be - ADHD, Depression due to divorce, Severe ADHD, PTSD, Depression, Severe PTSD, Budding PB, Budding Schizoprhrenic, Possible Borderline PD, Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD), Sensory Integration Disorder (SID), CD, CDD with ADHD and severe PTSD, CDD with emerging BiPolar (BP) with narcissistic traits and possible borderline tendencies. And last but NOT least - Child fine mother needs psychiatric help. THEN the most recent psycho. evaluation. He is Severe ADHD, Severe PTSD, Depression, Oppositional Defiant Disorder and budding Sociopath/Anti=social personality disorder. Who are you going to believe? When I got the first BiPolar (BP) diagnosis I thought - (slap head) well THAT explains it - and some classes of SSRI's made him very angry and violent, others were tolerable. Ritalin made him aggressive, and I can list 5 dozen plus medications. that we tried in a carousel fashion and none helped. Not even a little bit. if I had to pick one that seemed to help him at all - Clonodine for sleep. But he has such severe PTSD about biofather coming to kill us - it took .10 to .20 to knock him out and then I got so worried I had to put a mirror under his nose to see fog if he was breathing or not. And after that he couldnt' function during the day. I am surprised your doctor didn't mention the effects of Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. It's a very real, very life -altering disorder. What your daughter is suffering from sounds more to me like that - than anything else. She has had SO MUCH stress in her life that she just kept putting it back and putting it away and hiding in or not knowing it was bothering her and because of that she can maintain at school - and explodes at home because at least there - she knows she has someone that cares about her. Dude (my son) was ENRAGED at me for years and supressed it because I paid the bills, the mortgage, bought the food and he knew that on a subconscious level but deeper yet - blamed me for abandoning him with his crazy bio father (not) and allowing horrible things to happen while I lived the life of a princess - (what bio dad told him) and didn't care about him at all. So when I took him - he hated me. It took him years to blurt out I hate you and mean it. Then fall apart and say some of the things that were bottled up inside. Kids don't have the ability to deal with stress at young ages so they develop their own coping skills to survive. The divorce probably DID affect her more than you know. The fact that you've moved a couple of times, the fact that financially it's been hit and miss (all same things here) and over the years - kids sometimes with Conduct disorders or PTSD are able to hold it together in school but not home or not at school but an angel at home...leaving you to wonder what they are doing to her in school. So my suggestion is not to be too hasty to dismiss this doctors findings. Stress manifests itself in so many ways. THE GOOD NEWS is that your daughter is still young and would benefit GREATLY from talking to someone either in Cognitive Behavior THerapy (alters bad logic) and/or play therapy. Play therapy was awesome. Just thought i would share a different point of view - I never believed Dude even had ADHD - and today I still don't think he has it. I DO know that PTSD has dominated his life due to the circumstances in his life and childhood and it nearly wrecked him as a person. He wasnt' able to hold it together at home or school and slept in the closet, under the bed, between the wall and the bed, or under the mattress for years - and with a butcher knife. THAT is stress. Up all night down all day - up all night and all day with no rhyme or reason and sometimes me BEGGING HIM TO PLEASE just lay down for 10 minutes so I could recoup? Stress. I feel for ya. Hugs Star [/QUOTE]
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