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<blockquote data-quote="Jena" data-source="post: 139453" data-attributes="member: 4514"><p>hi</p><p></p><p>i see both of your points I truly do. you are correct i will have to trust my "mom" instinct on this one yet at the same time leave my mind open. it truly is a juggling act of sorts.</p><p></p><p>Star hi regarding the ptsd thing i too thought ok maybe. it just doens't fit becaues difficult child's symptoms have been apparent since pre-k. that is before the 2 big moves in her life (moving from queens to the island and then further into the island). </p><p></p><p>she has demonstrated for years extreme anxiety even as a little baby i always felt it, she could never soothe herself, etc. it just came out in different ways later on as she began to develop. she has no memory of ex husband and i married we split prior to her 2nd birthday so there aren't any memories of dad sleeping with her on his chest etc. sure their might be emotions without a doubt but concrete memories there aren't any. </p><p></p><p>i noticed an increase in her anxiety symptoms upon moving out to the island two summer's ago. then they subsided once she made friends, etc. and adjusted. yet the everyday anxiety that goes with the territory for her is always prevelant. it's just part of her i am so used to dealing with it the constant checking, the needed routine, the constant questions of stuff that is mine to worry about ie. did you get the mail, did you remember to do this and that? lol ofcourse i tell her that's mommy's job silly not yours.</p><p></p><p>i'm sorry to hear that you have gone through such difficulty and worse with so many different' diagnosis's it's just never ending. yet i do feel confident that depression and anxiety are at the heart of it. she said my difficult child's demeanor or what was presented taht day was of a depressed withdrawn child. to me tha'Tourette's Syndrome just her.</p><p></p><p>the sleep she didn't explain very well and taht was disturbing to me. the doctor's answer as to why difficult child can remain up until 5 a.m. was because depressed people have sleep issues. i siad ok i'll buy that. yet she isnt' sitting there crying or scared or wanting me she's down there tv on on her labtop with webkinz trying to sneak potatoe chips she's having a party the nights i pass out and dont stand guard.</p><p></p><p>she said well maybe it's a sleep disorder of some type. i said ok than if that's to be a posisbily than why is it we went and can be for mos. at a time with above average functioning, minimal anxiety, sleeping well, eating normally academically excelling socially doing well and then boom it hits the black cloud i call it? her answer to that was depression isn't a straight run it has peaks and valleys and maybe for her the work load at school 3rd grade is hard started to hit end of october beginning of november and taht pressurized her and made her go on a downward slope so to speak.</p><p></p><p>the school was so horrible with what they told the dr as well. you know it's funny if i was one of those parents who didn't care what my child was going through who turneda blind eye and put my own emotional and financial needs of the family first i could see it. yet their impression of rin and her lack of focus and also incompleted tasks, etc was a problem at home. this upset me greatly. my boyfriend and i have really tried so hard we have. we slip up a times like alot of couples do and there have been a few arguments yet for the most part we stay on course. when there's a problem its off to the truck downstairs with cig. adn tea until we work it out.</p><p></p><p>the school doesn't get it they dont know they didn't then. when m y almost 90 pound 9 year old is clinging to furniture and won't go to school what crane should i use to pry her and lift her out? or should i even? (hence her lateness they were complaining about) if she sits at our kitchen table for 3 hours and is totally unable to focus during homework time to the point where the rest of the kids are off and playing and there she is i now make her write a note to her teacher so she is held accountable herself for not doing it she also doens't get tv time or snack that night.</p><p></p><p>they so easily judge situations its disturbing. i got so aggrivated between my ex nightmare saying well she's moved 2 times and switched schools 2 times. i'm sitting there thinking yes you jerk the first time my older one was kicked out of school gpa fell below 80 in an acclereated program, and we moved out Occupational Therapist (OT) long island. then i kept it together for while but asked him repeatedly for help with difficult child with days off i kept taking for various dr appointments and he kept saying no no no. so ofcourse i ran out of money eventually adn the sh*t hit the fan he takes no responsibility for that at all hence our 2nd move.</p><p></p><p>i am more than willing to take blame where i need to as a parent for choices i made no problem. yet when everyone's pointing the finger at me and not looking at themselves at all tehn i have cause for issue and definite "atttitude" on my part <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p><p></p><p>ok clearly i rambled enough. i'm hoping that if she is wrong and this child is BiPolar (BP) that the approach im about to take will assist with that as well.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Jena, post: 139453, member: 4514"] hi i see both of your points I truly do. you are correct i will have to trust my "mom" instinct on this one yet at the same time leave my mind open. it truly is a juggling act of sorts. Star hi regarding the ptsd thing i too thought ok maybe. it just doens't fit becaues difficult child's symptoms have been apparent since pre-k. that is before the 2 big moves in her life (moving from queens to the island and then further into the island). she has demonstrated for years extreme anxiety even as a little baby i always felt it, she could never soothe herself, etc. it just came out in different ways later on as she began to develop. she has no memory of ex husband and i married we split prior to her 2nd birthday so there aren't any memories of dad sleeping with her on his chest etc. sure their might be emotions without a doubt but concrete memories there aren't any. i noticed an increase in her anxiety symptoms upon moving out to the island two summer's ago. then they subsided once she made friends, etc. and adjusted. yet the everyday anxiety that goes with the territory for her is always prevelant. it's just part of her i am so used to dealing with it the constant checking, the needed routine, the constant questions of stuff that is mine to worry about ie. did you get the mail, did you remember to do this and that? lol ofcourse i tell her that's mommy's job silly not yours. i'm sorry to hear that you have gone through such difficulty and worse with so many different' diagnosis's it's just never ending. yet i do feel confident that depression and anxiety are at the heart of it. she said my difficult child's demeanor or what was presented taht day was of a depressed withdrawn child. to me tha'Tourette's Syndrome just her. the sleep she didn't explain very well and taht was disturbing to me. the doctor's answer as to why difficult child can remain up until 5 a.m. was because depressed people have sleep issues. i siad ok i'll buy that. yet she isnt' sitting there crying or scared or wanting me she's down there tv on on her labtop with webkinz trying to sneak potatoe chips she's having a party the nights i pass out and dont stand guard. she said well maybe it's a sleep disorder of some type. i said ok than if that's to be a posisbily than why is it we went and can be for mos. at a time with above average functioning, minimal anxiety, sleeping well, eating normally academically excelling socially doing well and then boom it hits the black cloud i call it? her answer to that was depression isn't a straight run it has peaks and valleys and maybe for her the work load at school 3rd grade is hard started to hit end of october beginning of november and taht pressurized her and made her go on a downward slope so to speak. the school was so horrible with what they told the dr as well. you know it's funny if i was one of those parents who didn't care what my child was going through who turneda blind eye and put my own emotional and financial needs of the family first i could see it. yet their impression of rin and her lack of focus and also incompleted tasks, etc was a problem at home. this upset me greatly. my boyfriend and i have really tried so hard we have. we slip up a times like alot of couples do and there have been a few arguments yet for the most part we stay on course. when there's a problem its off to the truck downstairs with cig. adn tea until we work it out. the school doesn't get it they dont know they didn't then. when m y almost 90 pound 9 year old is clinging to furniture and won't go to school what crane should i use to pry her and lift her out? or should i even? (hence her lateness they were complaining about) if she sits at our kitchen table for 3 hours and is totally unable to focus during homework time to the point where the rest of the kids are off and playing and there she is i now make her write a note to her teacher so she is held accountable herself for not doing it she also doens't get tv time or snack that night. they so easily judge situations its disturbing. i got so aggrivated between my ex nightmare saying well she's moved 2 times and switched schools 2 times. i'm sitting there thinking yes you jerk the first time my older one was kicked out of school gpa fell below 80 in an acclereated program, and we moved out Occupational Therapist (OT) long island. then i kept it together for while but asked him repeatedly for help with difficult child with days off i kept taking for various dr appointments and he kept saying no no no. so ofcourse i ran out of money eventually adn the sh*t hit the fan he takes no responsibility for that at all hence our 2nd move. i am more than willing to take blame where i need to as a parent for choices i made no problem. yet when everyone's pointing the finger at me and not looking at themselves at all tehn i have cause for issue and definite "atttitude" on my part :) ok clearly i rambled enough. i'm hoping that if she is wrong and this child is BiPolar (BP) that the approach im about to take will assist with that as well. 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