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<blockquote data-quote="Lost in sadness" data-source="post: 727268" data-attributes="member: 21056"><p>Hey</p><p>Good to see you back, I wondered where you were and was hoping you were not on here as things were so much better now your son has his flat. I am so sorry to hear how you are feeling, I understand this. My son got his houseshare and for a while it was ok. Spotless. As time went on unsavoury friends started staying, parties every night, slept all day. We bought a weekly shop which was gone in a couple of days as he fed all his ‘mates’ too. Eventually another homeless boy started sleeping on the floor. One night in a drink/drug filed rage my son punched holes through the walls of the ensuite bathroom. From then on the room flooded daily. Long story short, the rest of the housemates left, mound grew on the floor and the beautiful house looked like a drug squat! It stunk, I was so so ashamed. We also met with drug dealers to pay off debt. One night we paid £250 to a dealer we met in a car park. I later heard that my son threw a party that night to celebrate being out of debt! How could he? It broke my heart. In the end he was thrown out of the house and as guarantors we were left with a £3.5k debt for damages. It’s a hard painful journey and we spend so much time wondering what WE did wrong and how WE can fix it. The learning for us is to realise that WE are not to blame. It is a slow process of detaching and some days are stronger than others. Be kind to yourself and know that ‘wobbles’ are all part of it and no one will judge you here! Hugs and live today. Xxxx</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Lost in sadness, post: 727268, member: 21056"] Hey Good to see you back, I wondered where you were and was hoping you were not on here as things were so much better now your son has his flat. I am so sorry to hear how you are feeling, I understand this. My son got his houseshare and for a while it was ok. Spotless. As time went on unsavoury friends started staying, parties every night, slept all day. We bought a weekly shop which was gone in a couple of days as he fed all his ‘mates’ too. Eventually another homeless boy started sleeping on the floor. One night in a drink/drug filed rage my son punched holes through the walls of the ensuite bathroom. From then on the room flooded daily. Long story short, the rest of the housemates left, mound grew on the floor and the beautiful house looked like a drug squat! It stunk, I was so so ashamed. We also met with drug dealers to pay off debt. One night we paid £250 to a dealer we met in a car park. I later heard that my son threw a party that night to celebrate being out of debt! How could he? It broke my heart. In the end he was thrown out of the house and as guarantors we were left with a £3.5k debt for damages. It’s a hard painful journey and we spend so much time wondering what WE did wrong and how WE can fix it. The learning for us is to realise that WE are not to blame. It is a slow process of detaching and some days are stronger than others. Be kind to yourself and know that ‘wobbles’ are all part of it and no one will judge you here! Hugs and live today. Xxxx [/QUOTE]
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