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<blockquote data-quote="DDD" data-source="post: 446752" data-attributes="member: 35"><p>I wish you great luck. In reading your post I didn't see (maybe me not being too swift lately, lol) any reciprocal goals. What level of expectations do you have for him that he is fully aware of prior to the relocation? Based on his past history it seems to me as an outsider that he must agree to zero tolerance of verbal & physical violence or confrontation in your home. Independent counseling as well as family counseling also sound necessary. This is a huge chance for all of you and love is not going to cure the long patterns of behavior. </p><p></p><p>Teenage behaviors in 2011 are different than they were before. Being a teen in the 50's, raising my first set of teens in the 70's and my last set in the 90's plus I feel qualified to say that it is a challenge always but particularly now. With a troubled background it likely will be more difficult. "Making friends" is really a big issue due to the splinter groups formed by teens and the dreaded influence of social networking. Ugh</p><p>Does he have any proven topic or activity of successful interest in his past? If so, perhaps you can try to find a group that might be compatible.</p><p></p><p>I greatly admire your love and willingness to give your best. on the other hand it is not easy to change behavior patterns at sixteen. In addition to supportive thoughts and prayers, I hope that all goes as you hope.One of the motto's we use around here is "hope for the best but be prepared for the worst". Sounds a little negative but it's workable. Hugs. DDD</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DDD, post: 446752, member: 35"] I wish you great luck. In reading your post I didn't see (maybe me not being too swift lately, lol) any reciprocal goals. What level of expectations do you have for him that he is fully aware of prior to the relocation? Based on his past history it seems to me as an outsider that he must agree to zero tolerance of verbal & physical violence or confrontation in your home. Independent counseling as well as family counseling also sound necessary. This is a huge chance for all of you and love is not going to cure the long patterns of behavior. Teenage behaviors in 2011 are different than they were before. Being a teen in the 50's, raising my first set of teens in the 70's and my last set in the 90's plus I feel qualified to say that it is a challenge always but particularly now. With a troubled background it likely will be more difficult. "Making friends" is really a big issue due to the splinter groups formed by teens and the dreaded influence of social networking. Ugh Does he have any proven topic or activity of successful interest in his past? If so, perhaps you can try to find a group that might be compatible. I greatly admire your love and willingness to give your best. on the other hand it is not easy to change behavior patterns at sixteen. In addition to supportive thoughts and prayers, I hope that all goes as you hope.One of the motto's we use around here is "hope for the best but be prepared for the worst". Sounds a little negative but it's workable. Hugs. DDD [/QUOTE]
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