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<blockquote data-quote="JayPee" data-source="post: 752529" data-attributes="member: 23405"><p>B-I'm so sorry for all you're going through.</p><p></p><p>Is there a faith maybe that you were brought up in or church you belonged to once that could be a good fit to begin worshiping at again? I think spending sometime truly with your own thoughts and trying to figure out who you are and where you want to go might be some first steps too. Having a well thought out plan is a good idea. I think when you take some baby steps in the direction you believe would lead you to a more spiritually enlightened place then the doors will open up to you and you will begin to find your way.</p><p></p><p>There was a great book on grieving I read in Al anon because we go through the same kind of thing when we lose someone we love, our united family etc., when our loved one is lost to addiction. It also talked about how grief can show itself in many different ways such as anger, resentment, bitterness. I had always thought it was just tears and sadness but it's not.</p><p></p><p>There's lots of ways to begin healing. For me my faith in God is paramount. Without Him all the will power I could muster up to change won't mean a thing. I also have been in therapy for two years. I go to Al anon and also have read many books that have expanded my knowledge and helped me to grow as a person. But "all of this" as we say in Al anon will only work to the degree you work it. There are plenty of people who go through "the motions" so to speak of attending church or even therapy but unless you're really "hungry" for a better way and are willing to make changes within yourself and learn what's broken in you, nothing will change.</p><p></p><p>I'm beginning to learn if someone else's problem is bothering me, then it's really some problem in me that needs healing.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="JayPee, post: 752529, member: 23405"] B-I'm so sorry for all you're going through. Is there a faith maybe that you were brought up in or church you belonged to once that could be a good fit to begin worshiping at again? I think spending sometime truly with your own thoughts and trying to figure out who you are and where you want to go might be some first steps too. Having a well thought out plan is a good idea. I think when you take some baby steps in the direction you believe would lead you to a more spiritually enlightened place then the doors will open up to you and you will begin to find your way. There was a great book on grieving I read in Al anon because we go through the same kind of thing when we lose someone we love, our united family etc., when our loved one is lost to addiction. It also talked about how grief can show itself in many different ways such as anger, resentment, bitterness. I had always thought it was just tears and sadness but it's not. There's lots of ways to begin healing. For me my faith in God is paramount. Without Him all the will power I could muster up to change won't mean a thing. I also have been in therapy for two years. I go to Al anon and also have read many books that have expanded my knowledge and helped me to grow as a person. But "all of this" as we say in Al anon will only work to the degree you work it. There are plenty of people who go through "the motions" so to speak of attending church or even therapy but unless you're really "hungry" for a better way and are willing to make changes within yourself and learn what's broken in you, nothing will change. I'm beginning to learn if someone else's problem is bothering me, then it's really some problem in me that needs healing. [/QUOTE]
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