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<blockquote data-quote="bran155" data-source="post: 254387"><p>Hi. My daughter was in 3 different rtcs. The first one was through the Board of Ed., it was a joke. Way too much freedom. My daughter went on 13 awols during the first 3 months! While on an awol she got caught shoplifting and ended up getting remanded and transferred to my county. From there we eneded up in Family Court. At which point she was placed into her 2nd Residential Treatment Center (RTC). Another joke. It was more like long term Juvie. Always fighting going on and minimal treatment. The staff, for the most part were all rude. I could never get anyone on the phone. They were not empathetic whatsoever. I fought tooth and nail to have her swithed. She ended up out of state at her 3rd Residential Treatment Center (RTC). Three hours from my house. It proved to be better that way given her history of running. She never attempted to run from there. This place had an awesome reputation. It was in the mountains, absolutely beautiful. They had wonderful programs, loved most of the staff, were fairly strict (which is what my daughter needed), went on trips, had a horse program and lot's of sports. I loved it at first. Then my daughter started complaining of abuse. At first I took it all with a grain of salt, as she tends to lie a bit. Then I started hearing the same stories from other girls. I saw bruises on my daughter as well as the other girls. I made a huge stink, had the entire place in an uproar, called the state to file a formal complaint, fought with several of the staff members and utlimately pulled her out early. In retrospect, I now believe that those abuse stories were a bit exaggerated! Since then my daughter has owned up to a lot of the lies. I regret pulling her out, as the last year of our lives have been absolute hell. I wish I would have been a little more reasonable about the situation but it is very scary to leave your child in the care of strangers. You always hear horror stories about these kinds of places, I was just so afraid that my daughter was in danger. While she was there she made great improvements. The first few months she did not do so well. But after a while she came around and really began working the program. She had a good 6 months where she got into minmal, if any trouble at all. Her downfall came when her therapist left. She had gotten so attached to her and when she left my daughter was devastated. That's when all of the "stories" started. So, I tend to believe that she was just angry. Of course hindsight is always 20/20. I wish I would have left her in. </p><p></p><p>There are always concerns when placing your child into a facility. Do your research, visit the place, meet the staff, talk to the other kids and go with your gut! You will always come across some staff who you will not like but there are places that are pretty reputable. I know it is scary. I have been there. Is the risk greater to leave your child home or to place him? That's the question I asked myself. And for us, the risk was much greater to leave my daughter home. She was a danger to herself. </p><p></p><p>Please feel free to pm me if you want. Good luck. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="bran155, post: 254387"] Hi. My daughter was in 3 different rtcs. The first one was through the Board of Ed., it was a joke. Way too much freedom. My daughter went on 13 awols during the first 3 months! While on an awol she got caught shoplifting and ended up getting remanded and transferred to my county. From there we eneded up in Family Court. At which point she was placed into her 2nd Residential Treatment Center (RTC). Another joke. It was more like long term Juvie. Always fighting going on and minimal treatment. The staff, for the most part were all rude. I could never get anyone on the phone. They were not empathetic whatsoever. I fought tooth and nail to have her swithed. She ended up out of state at her 3rd Residential Treatment Center (RTC). Three hours from my house. It proved to be better that way given her history of running. She never attempted to run from there. This place had an awesome reputation. It was in the mountains, absolutely beautiful. They had wonderful programs, loved most of the staff, were fairly strict (which is what my daughter needed), went on trips, had a horse program and lot's of sports. I loved it at first. Then my daughter started complaining of abuse. At first I took it all with a grain of salt, as she tends to lie a bit. Then I started hearing the same stories from other girls. I saw bruises on my daughter as well as the other girls. I made a huge stink, had the entire place in an uproar, called the state to file a formal complaint, fought with several of the staff members and utlimately pulled her out early. In retrospect, I now believe that those abuse stories were a bit exaggerated! Since then my daughter has owned up to a lot of the lies. I regret pulling her out, as the last year of our lives have been absolute hell. I wish I would have been a little more reasonable about the situation but it is very scary to leave your child in the care of strangers. You always hear horror stories about these kinds of places, I was just so afraid that my daughter was in danger. While she was there she made great improvements. The first few months she did not do so well. But after a while she came around and really began working the program. She had a good 6 months where she got into minmal, if any trouble at all. Her downfall came when her therapist left. She had gotten so attached to her and when she left my daughter was devastated. That's when all of the "stories" started. So, I tend to believe that she was just angry. Of course hindsight is always 20/20. I wish I would have left her in. There are always concerns when placing your child into a facility. Do your research, visit the place, meet the staff, talk to the other kids and go with your gut! You will always come across some staff who you will not like but there are places that are pretty reputable. I know it is scary. I have been there. Is the risk greater to leave your child home or to place him? That's the question I asked myself. And for us, the risk was much greater to leave my daughter home. She was a danger to herself. Please feel free to pm me if you want. Good luck. :) [/QUOTE]
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