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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 520462" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p>You did a great job in supporting Duckie and she did a great job in her accomplishments. Bravo to both of you!</p><p></p><p>When my daughter was growing up, before she went down the difficult child road, having remembered what it was like growing up myself with various jealousies from other girls, mean comments others make, how envy shows up so often, especially when a child is talented in something...............I told my daughter that when others make those mean comments or might, as she got older, call her "the b word" (as girls are inclined to do) that one way she could look at it was that underneath the words, what they were really saying is "wow, you are powerful or talented, or beautiful, or whatever," and she could simply say "thanks" and leave it at that, knowing the underlying message was that they were jealous/envious of her in some fashion and this is how jealousy often comes out. Later in life, she told me that that really helped her to see it differently and to not take it personally, to realize that those disparaging remarks were really about the person saying them and usually had nothing to do with her. Now I hear the statement a lot, "<em>what you think of me is none of my business."</em> I think that statement just about covers it.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 520462, member: 13542"] You did a great job in supporting Duckie and she did a great job in her accomplishments. Bravo to both of you! When my daughter was growing up, before she went down the difficult child road, having remembered what it was like growing up myself with various jealousies from other girls, mean comments others make, how envy shows up so often, especially when a child is talented in something...............I told my daughter that when others make those mean comments or might, as she got older, call her "the b word" (as girls are inclined to do) that one way she could look at it was that underneath the words, what they were really saying is "wow, you are powerful or talented, or beautiful, or whatever," and she could simply say "thanks" and leave it at that, knowing the underlying message was that they were jealous/envious of her in some fashion and this is how jealousy often comes out. Later in life, she told me that that really helped her to see it differently and to not take it personally, to realize that those disparaging remarks were really about the person saying them and usually had nothing to do with her. Now I hear the statement a lot, "[I]what you think of me is none of my business."[/I] I think that statement just about covers it. [/QUOTE]
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