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<blockquote data-quote="1905" data-source="post: 227728" data-attributes="member: 2668"><p>With some kids, the more we help them, the less they do for themselves. We can give our last dime, and our entire heart and in the long run-it's for nothing. The only way they learn is the hard way when we say, "No more" and mean it. I had to have a restraining order on my son. He robbed my house after we threw him out, broke the door down and took everything. His whole life we walked on eggshells, and he broke everything, EVERYTHING up until that point. If he had to rake the yard, no, the rake would be in half. I could go on, and on...... but I'll tell you... he's ok now. He had to live in a rooming house, get a job (he wouldn't before than- Why should he?- were his words on the subject and he didn't until then). He was forced to, he had no other choice. It's the only way to help them, they have to help themselves, and that's the only motivation. My son has ODD. He's 21, and lives with a friend. We do have a relationship now and it is wonderful; and normal. Welcome, keep posting.-Alyssa</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="1905, post: 227728, member: 2668"] With some kids, the more we help them, the less they do for themselves. We can give our last dime, and our entire heart and in the long run-it's for nothing. The only way they learn is the hard way when we say, "No more" and mean it. I had to have a restraining order on my son. He robbed my house after we threw him out, broke the door down and took everything. His whole life we walked on eggshells, and he broke everything, EVERYTHING up until that point. If he had to rake the yard, no, the rake would be in half. I could go on, and on...... but I'll tell you... he's ok now. He had to live in a rooming house, get a job (he wouldn't before than- Why should he?- were his words on the subject and he didn't until then). He was forced to, he had no other choice. It's the only way to help them, they have to help themselves, and that's the only motivation. My son has ODD. He's 21, and lives with a friend. We do have a relationship now and it is wonderful; and normal. Welcome, keep posting.-Alyssa [/QUOTE]
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