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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 296405" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>I am awestruck by your wonderful way of handling this tough situation, your calm questions, husband's kindness yet firmness, easy child's intelligence and ability to express himself. Honestly, most teens are not as thoughtful and well-spoken as your precious easy child. You raised a wonderful child and your family seems very solid. </p><p></p><p>difficult child doesn't want any rules. He wants the financial benefits of you and husband without having to be a real part of the family. School's starting soon and maybe he's afraid his aunt won't have the $$$ to sign him up for all those sports. Since you, husband and easy child are so solid and difficult child doesn't want to be a part of your wonderful family unit, I'd personally let him stay with his aunt. It was his decision to go. He isn't on the streets. He has three meals if he wants them. And, although your sister in my opinion is a putz for not communicating with you, your son is safe and her problem now. </p><p></p><p>I'd count my many blessings, and not feel badly. You are obviously a wonderful mother. Sometimes, in spite of our best efforts, our kids are born differently or wired differently and they don't want our love except on their terms. You don't say if husband is his natural father or not, but if he isn't, perhaps he inherited some of his personality from his father. Perhaps if his father has issues...you know what I mean.</p><p></p><p>I commend you for your strong values, your kindness, your firmness, and your wonderful easy child. I don't think I could have handled a meeting like yours with such grace.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 296405, member: 1550"] I am awestruck by your wonderful way of handling this tough situation, your calm questions, husband's kindness yet firmness, easy child's intelligence and ability to express himself. Honestly, most teens are not as thoughtful and well-spoken as your precious easy child. You raised a wonderful child and your family seems very solid. difficult child doesn't want any rules. He wants the financial benefits of you and husband without having to be a real part of the family. School's starting soon and maybe he's afraid his aunt won't have the $$$ to sign him up for all those sports. Since you, husband and easy child are so solid and difficult child doesn't want to be a part of your wonderful family unit, I'd personally let him stay with his aunt. It was his decision to go. He isn't on the streets. He has three meals if he wants them. And, although your sister in my opinion is a putz for not communicating with you, your son is safe and her problem now. I'd count my many blessings, and not feel badly. You are obviously a wonderful mother. Sometimes, in spite of our best efforts, our kids are born differently or wired differently and they don't want our love except on their terms. You don't say if husband is his natural father or not, but if he isn't, perhaps he inherited some of his personality from his father. Perhaps if his father has issues...you know what I mean. I commend you for your strong values, your kindness, your firmness, and your wonderful easy child. I don't think I could have handled a meeting like yours with such grace. [/QUOTE]
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