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<blockquote data-quote="cakewalk" data-source="post: 297681" data-attributes="member: 7060"><p>Exactly what I thought would happen. I haven't heard from my son since Monday when I dropped him off. My sister came home from her cottage on Monday and heard we didn't let him just move back in. I called my son today and he's basically closed the door on ever coming back. His communication to me was exactly what my sister has told him for the last four days. (My son was a parrot. The words were not his, but hers. I've seen it for the last six months.)</p><p></p><p>1. He was ambushed by us Sunday night. </p><p></p><p>2. easy child is a spoiled brat, who has everything he wants and doesn't want to share it anymore (but difficult child acknowledged, he would feel the same way.) difficult child said easy child's speech to him was scripted, like he had written it down and rehearsed it.</p><p></p><p>3. He shouldn't have to interview to come home.</p><p></p><p>4. He shouldn't have wasted two hours packing. If I knew he wasn't allowed to come home, I should have told him in advance. (I wanted him to come home. I did tell him okay on Friday night. I do feel horrible about that. But, I also told him not to unpack and let's make strides to get him home sooner than later.)</p><p></p><p></p><p>5. It's not bad at aunt's house so he might as well stay.</p><p>His counselor asked him why he wanted to come home anyway when my son first mentioned it to him. (I've never spoken with the guy. He's only going by my son's account.) Apparently the counselor told him if it wasn't bad at aunt's why would he want to come back here.</p><p></p><p>6. The counselor then told him this last Monday that difficult child shouldn't have to beg to come home. That we should have just opened our doors to him with no questions asked. The counselor told my son that I would called, I would turn it around that he didn't work hard enough for this and therefore it's his fault. My son said the counselor nailed that one. (I said, "This was our first conflict of feelings, if you will, and you've already slammed the door shut instead of working towards repairing this relationship.)</p><p></p><p>7. We set him up Sunday. He will never reach out to us again.</p><p></p><p>I've placed a call to his counselor's office, but got voice mail. How does a counselor make the determination he did when only hearing one side of the story, namely a 17 year old kid's version?</p><p></p><p>I also asked my difficult child to have my sister call me.</p><p></p><p>Bottom line, I guess it's better to have my heart ripped out right now than in three weeks, after he was moved back in, and he blew out of here back to my sister's house. It was inevitable. Nothing has changed.</p><p></p><p>I AM SO SAD!!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="cakewalk, post: 297681, member: 7060"] Exactly what I thought would happen. I haven't heard from my son since Monday when I dropped him off. My sister came home from her cottage on Monday and heard we didn't let him just move back in. I called my son today and he's basically closed the door on ever coming back. His communication to me was exactly what my sister has told him for the last four days. (My son was a parrot. The words were not his, but hers. I've seen it for the last six months.) 1. He was ambushed by us Sunday night. 2. easy child is a spoiled brat, who has everything he wants and doesn't want to share it anymore (but difficult child acknowledged, he would feel the same way.) difficult child said easy child's speech to him was scripted, like he had written it down and rehearsed it. 3. He shouldn't have to interview to come home. 4. He shouldn't have wasted two hours packing. If I knew he wasn't allowed to come home, I should have told him in advance. (I wanted him to come home. I did tell him okay on Friday night. I do feel horrible about that. But, I also told him not to unpack and let's make strides to get him home sooner than later.) 5. It's not bad at aunt's house so he might as well stay. His counselor asked him why he wanted to come home anyway when my son first mentioned it to him. (I've never spoken with the guy. He's only going by my son's account.) Apparently the counselor told him if it wasn't bad at aunt's why would he want to come back here. 6. The counselor then told him this last Monday that difficult child shouldn't have to beg to come home. That we should have just opened our doors to him with no questions asked. The counselor told my son that I would called, I would turn it around that he didn't work hard enough for this and therefore it's his fault. My son said the counselor nailed that one. (I said, "This was our first conflict of feelings, if you will, and you've already slammed the door shut instead of working towards repairing this relationship.) 7. We set him up Sunday. He will never reach out to us again. I've placed a call to his counselor's office, but got voice mail. How does a counselor make the determination he did when only hearing one side of the story, namely a 17 year old kid's version? I also asked my difficult child to have my sister call me. Bottom line, I guess it's better to have my heart ripped out right now than in three weeks, after he was moved back in, and he blew out of here back to my sister's house. It was inevitable. Nothing has changed. I AM SO SAD!! [/QUOTE]
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