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H v. difficult child and me in the middle
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<blockquote data-quote="DaisyFace" data-source="post: 417374" data-attributes="member: 6546"><p>Sven--</p><p> </p><p>It sounds like there are a few different issues going on here....</p><p> </p><p>You've been having trouble in your marriage? I'm sorry to hear it if that is the case...</p><p>If the marriage is over - don't make it about difficult child. Kids blame themselves for divorce enough as it is - don't let a dispute about your kids' activites be the final straw.</p><p> </p><p>Regarding the scouting? Sounds like scouting is pretty important to your H....maybe even moreso than it is to difficult child. </p><p> </p><p>We had an issue with scouting here, too. husband was really into scouting. DS - not so much. But DS joined the troup...earned a few badges....went on a few trips....but eh, wasn't really interested. Meanwhile, husband tried to put down more and more rules about the scouting activities that DS "should" be doing and earning and caring about. It was turning scouts from a fun activity to a high-stress situation. I was the one who ended up playing "mediator" on the scouting issue. I sat each of them down separately to find out their feelings and goals about scouting. It was clear that husband was taking it far more seriously than DS wanted to. For us, the solution was that DS quit the troop...and husband let him without any hard feelings.</p><p> </p><p>It does sound like some kind of mediation might be good for your scouting situation, too - but only to resolve the dispute between your H and your difficult child. Please down let this affect your marriage...</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DaisyFace, post: 417374, member: 6546"] Sven-- It sounds like there are a few different issues going on here.... You've been having trouble in your marriage? I'm sorry to hear it if that is the case... If the marriage is over - don't make it about difficult child. Kids blame themselves for divorce enough as it is - don't let a dispute about your kids' activites be the final straw. Regarding the scouting? Sounds like scouting is pretty important to your H....maybe even moreso than it is to difficult child. We had an issue with scouting here, too. husband was really into scouting. DS - not so much. But DS joined the troup...earned a few badges....went on a few trips....but eh, wasn't really interested. Meanwhile, husband tried to put down more and more rules about the scouting activities that DS "should" be doing and earning and caring about. It was turning scouts from a fun activity to a high-stress situation. I was the one who ended up playing "mediator" on the scouting issue. I sat each of them down separately to find out their feelings and goals about scouting. It was clear that husband was taking it far more seriously than DS wanted to. For us, the solution was that DS quit the troop...and husband let him without any hard feelings. It does sound like some kind of mediation might be good for your scouting situation, too - but only to resolve the dispute between your H and your difficult child. Please down let this affect your marriage... [/QUOTE]
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