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Had son arrested 4x this year
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<blockquote data-quote="ScentofCedar" data-source="post: 329405" data-attributes="member: 3353"><p>Your story is heartbreaking, OMG. We had similar experiences when this all started for us. When helping professionals stop helping and turn on the parents, the parent is left with no source of strength from which to parent, and things get worse. </p><p></p><p>Your son does need you. He does need to hear what you have to say.</p><p></p><p>For us, one of the most positive things that could have happened was for me to realize that our son's actions had nothing to do with his parenting. They had to do with his drug use. Once I was finally able to see that (thanks to the other parents on this site), I was able to say to our son that he had been raised better than to do what he was doing. </p><p></p><p>This was very important, both for me and for him.</p><p></p><p>It gave him another way to go, and it gave me a way to see that where he was in his life was a choice he had made.</p><p></p><p>The standards you raised your son to believe in are still there, inside him somewhere. Whatever he says, when you tell him you raised him better than to do what he is doing, he will hear you. </p><p></p><p>The other thing that helped me was The Serenity Prayer.</p><p></p><p>Our Suz wrote it out for me once, and told me to read and re-read it til I got it. I did that, and it brought me such comfort at a time when nothing, but nothing else, did.</p><p></p><p>God, grant me the Serenity to accept the things I cannot change</p><p>The Courage to change the things I can</p><p>And the Wisdom to know the difference.</p><p></p><p>I would say this prayer in the dark of the night, worried sick and all alone.</p><p></p><p>It helped me, and I hope it helps you, too.</p><p></p><p>Barbara</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="ScentofCedar, post: 329405, member: 3353"] Your story is heartbreaking, OMG. We had similar experiences when this all started for us. When helping professionals stop helping and turn on the parents, the parent is left with no source of strength from which to parent, and things get worse. Your son does need you. He does need to hear what you have to say. For us, one of the most positive things that could have happened was for me to realize that our son's actions had nothing to do with his parenting. They had to do with his drug use. Once I was finally able to see that (thanks to the other parents on this site), I was able to say to our son that he had been raised better than to do what he was doing. This was very important, both for me and for him. It gave him another way to go, and it gave me a way to see that where he was in his life was a choice he had made. The standards you raised your son to believe in are still there, inside him somewhere. Whatever he says, when you tell him you raised him better than to do what he is doing, he will hear you. The other thing that helped me was The Serenity Prayer. Our Suz wrote it out for me once, and told me to read and re-read it til I got it. I did that, and it brought me such comfort at a time when nothing, but nothing else, did. God, grant me the Serenity to accept the things I cannot change The Courage to change the things I can And the Wisdom to know the difference. I would say this prayer in the dark of the night, worried sick and all alone. It helped me, and I hope it helps you, too. Barbara [/QUOTE]
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