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<blockquote data-quote="Nomad" data-source="post: 464771"><p>The Buddhist quote was something I was thinking about the other day.(Actually EXACTLY what I was thinking about)</p><p>I believe that we must stop trying to run away from all our discomfort and learn some ways of tolerating the discomfort. Understand that it is normal to not be "ok" with what our difficult children are doing. To sort of "ride it through" and as best as possible and as quickly as possible...let it pass.</p><p>In the mean time, make sure there are plenty of other GOOD things going on with our lives. To always nurture good relationships and productive, healthy opportunities in other areas.</p><p>This doesn't mean that we give up hope...but it does mean that our emphasis is no longer there. (detachment)</p><p>So....we'll have moments where we have pauses (hopefully brief) of discomfort....but don't dwell on them and don't try to cover them up with alcohol, etc. either. Don't drown in the sorrow, etc. Don't even fret about being in pain. Just understand that this is an uncomfortable experience. Then quickly move to other, healthy options.</p><p>Although our burdens might be great and frequent, it doesn't particularly matter.</p><p>I actually think this is a very good way of approaching life...period. Give up the struggle...I promise you will find </p><p>happiness. aaf 9/29/11</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nomad, post: 464771"] The Buddhist quote was something I was thinking about the other day.(Actually EXACTLY what I was thinking about) I believe that we must stop trying to run away from all our discomfort and learn some ways of tolerating the discomfort. Understand that it is normal to not be "ok" with what our difficult children are doing. To sort of "ride it through" and as best as possible and as quickly as possible...let it pass. In the mean time, make sure there are plenty of other GOOD things going on with our lives. To always nurture good relationships and productive, healthy opportunities in other areas. This doesn't mean that we give up hope...but it does mean that our emphasis is no longer there. (detachment) So....we'll have moments where we have pauses (hopefully brief) of discomfort....but don't dwell on them and don't try to cover them up with alcohol, etc. either. Don't drown in the sorrow, etc. Don't even fret about being in pain. Just understand that this is an uncomfortable experience. Then quickly move to other, healthy options. Although our burdens might be great and frequent, it doesn't particularly matter. I actually think this is a very good way of approaching life...period. Give up the struggle...I promise you will find happiness. aaf 9/29/11 [/QUOTE]
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