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<blockquote data-quote="witzend" data-source="post: 204977" data-attributes="member: 99"><p>This is a toughie. It's so hard to let them just fail. M tested well and it really hurt with those classes where class or lab work was a major part of the grade. Yours is a Freshman, right? If I had it to do again, I would enlist the help of the guidance counselor to have a talk with him about the consequences of failing two required courses in the first term of his freshman year. Usually, they can either take a summer class to make up the course, or retake the classes in the fall next year with next year's Freshmen. That means taking a somewhat difficult class when he could be filling that time with a more enjoyable elective class. But I would let that be his decision. He'll learn more from the natural consequences of this mistake than he will from outside reactions to his mistake.</p><p></p><p>I know this is hard, because I was never able to do it myself! Of course, I have hindsight now, and you know how much clearer that is than foresight. I'd be having a cow right about now, when we were going through this. But I think it's at least a basket "b" type thing. He screws up, he has consequences, and you help him recover from it.</p><p></p><p>As far as reminders go, there are watches out there (I know of one by Nike) that you are able to program from multiple alarms. I have an adult friend with ADHD whose community college gave her these watches (yes, more than once) to help her be able to take her medications so she could study.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="witzend, post: 204977, member: 99"] This is a toughie. It's so hard to let them just fail. M tested well and it really hurt with those classes where class or lab work was a major part of the grade. Yours is a Freshman, right? If I had it to do again, I would enlist the help of the guidance counselor to have a talk with him about the consequences of failing two required courses in the first term of his freshman year. Usually, they can either take a summer class to make up the course, or retake the classes in the fall next year with next year's Freshmen. That means taking a somewhat difficult class when he could be filling that time with a more enjoyable elective class. But I would let that be his decision. He'll learn more from the natural consequences of this mistake than he will from outside reactions to his mistake. I know this is hard, because I was never able to do it myself! Of course, I have hindsight now, and you know how much clearer that is than foresight. I'd be having a cow right about now, when we were going through this. But I think it's at least a basket "b" type thing. He screws up, he has consequences, and you help him recover from it. As far as reminders go, there are watches out there (I know of one by Nike) that you are able to program from multiple alarms. I have an adult friend with ADHD whose community college gave her these watches (yes, more than once) to help her be able to take her medications so she could study. [/QUOTE]
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