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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 667970" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Some people feel rage when they don't get their own way. Is that hate? I think that's about THEM because they are not in control. And it is hard on those who must control. I have seen this all my life. Rage is often expressed as snubbing. However, it is also healthy sometimes to keep a distance. So that isn't always the case.</p><p></p><p>As much trouble as I've had with FOO, except for my mother, I don't think they hated. I think my mother hated me for the $5000 and not giving it to one child instead of splitting it amongst all three. If she didn't hate me, she did acts that indicated she did. Maybe she was just raged out because she could not control me. I don't know."This is your punishment for not doing what I said!" Maybe she felt not getting involved with grandmother's $5000 was abuse of her (shrug). She certainly did not see that I was protecting my children. But then she never protected us. I suspect that, in later years, my siblings were more her nurturer than the other way around.I know my brother "mothered" her.</p><p></p><p>I wonder how many mothers don't mother when we are young because of being so emotionally stunted or immature, but their golden children nurture THEM as they get older, and before they are old and frail.</p><p></p><p>I think siblings have many things going one. One is an inability to recognize and accept mental illness, although I know they both have some as well as me. It is hereditary and I'm not the only one. I AM the only one who went for help. But I was open about it, as I am not ashamed, and so they can use it to try to hurt me. Is that hate? I don't hate them. I don't know if they hate me. I think it's more anger, again that there is no control of me.</p><p></p><p>Certainly they try. You saw right here just how hard that attempt can get. But is that hate or just that insatiable "I need to win!" variable that they seem to have? I can't say. I am not sure.</p><p></p><p>Copa, I forgot to mentiion that, although it's very nutritious, I hate spinach! I have to put cheese on it to get it down <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite2" alt=";)" title="Wink ;)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=";)" /> Does that make me a Popeye hater? (gasp)</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 667970, member: 1550"] Some people feel rage when they don't get their own way. Is that hate? I think that's about THEM because they are not in control. And it is hard on those who must control. I have seen this all my life. Rage is often expressed as snubbing. However, it is also healthy sometimes to keep a distance. So that isn't always the case. As much trouble as I've had with FOO, except for my mother, I don't think they hated. I think my mother hated me for the $5000 and not giving it to one child instead of splitting it amongst all three. If she didn't hate me, she did acts that indicated she did. Maybe she was just raged out because she could not control me. I don't know."This is your punishment for not doing what I said!" Maybe she felt not getting involved with grandmother's $5000 was abuse of her (shrug). She certainly did not see that I was protecting my children. But then she never protected us. I suspect that, in later years, my siblings were more her nurturer than the other way around.I know my brother "mothered" her. I wonder how many mothers don't mother when we are young because of being so emotionally stunted or immature, but their golden children nurture THEM as they get older, and before they are old and frail. I think siblings have many things going one. One is an inability to recognize and accept mental illness, although I know they both have some as well as me. It is hereditary and I'm not the only one. I AM the only one who went for help. But I was open about it, as I am not ashamed, and so they can use it to try to hurt me. Is that hate? I don't hate them. I don't know if they hate me. I think it's more anger, again that there is no control of me. Certainly they try. You saw right here just how hard that attempt can get. But is that hate or just that insatiable "I need to win!" variable that they seem to have? I can't say. I am not sure. Copa, I forgot to mentiion that, although it's very nutritious, I hate spinach! I have to put cheese on it to get it down ;) Does that make me a Popeye hater? (gasp) [/QUOTE]
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